I met my wife when I was about 22 and in shape. I used to skateboard until I got hurt and never got back into sports even though I have asked her to do active things with me, she just never wanted to. Fast foward 5 yrs, 2 kids, and desks jobs later, I have slowely gained 100 lbs. I am a great father, and do the best to be a great husband, but I feel like she is repulsed by me. Sex is obsolete, even though she was never really that outgoing or open sexually. I dont blame her for feeling the way she does, but I never expected her to act like she stopped loving me. She acts like she doesnt care about me at all, and she finally admitted that she is like this because of my weight. I want to lose weight for myself and my kids, but Im starting to feel that I will so recentful when I do, that I wont want her anymore. I go out of my way for her, but she seems to go out of her way not to do anything for me, not sexually (obsolete,remember) just in general. How am I supposed to feel?
2006-11-15 07:16:15 · 34 answers · asked by .... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe there is more than just the weight bothering her. Try talking to her more. Go out together on more dates without the kids. I like the idea of both of you joining a gym.. but its not like you will work out together b/c men and women work out differently.
She sounds a bit selfish... how come she did not tell you first that the weight was bothering her... or at least she could have dropped hints, like "Honey I bought some healthy food from the supermarket so we could get back in shape." ya know?
She should be able to please you in bed also.... if you are going to be making your body over... the least she could do is work on her sexual habits.. A woman should be able to please her man and keep it interesting.. if she's not.. then thats where I come back to the question of " Maybe its more than just your weight?
2006-11-15 07:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's plenty much less confusing to locate attraction in an greater half if the relationship and thoughts are there. i think of your husband is telling you the reality that he thinks your captivating and weight isn't each and every thing particularly as a spouse and a mom. he's suited there are different considerable traits to have in an greater half than only looks. If a woman is obese initially i'm no longer so specific i'd prefer to start up a relationship except we actually had a connection. yet men are definately very seen creatures, it has no longer something to do with being shallow the two. i choose the two looks, and a surprising like minded character. only shop doing what your doing, pass to the well being midsection attempt to unfastened weight and consume healthful, on your well being and you will no longer subject approximately your husband finding you proper or no longer, in spite of the undeniable fact that he already does.
2016-10-15 14:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you supposed to feel? Like a man that no longer is physically attracted to by his wife!
Unless, I misread or did not read something, there does not seem to be any medical reason for the weight gain. It looks like you are on a "SEE-FOOD" diet and no longer work out!
Suggestion, change your diet and start working out, running whatever. This is a complaint men have about women all too often. Being a man, I'm always making sure I'm fit. For a very selfish reason too... I don't want to have a heart attack, die at a young age or get any other malady as a result of a 100lb weight gain. I also want my wife to look at a body of a man she is physically attracted to. I suggest you do the same.
2006-11-15 07:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey Look: Don't let this get you down. Have you considered surgery for weight loss? they have a new method of a closer clamp they put in on the stomach opening to hold the intake of food off, it's reversible after the weight gain is reached.
My sister had the surgery where she lost 165 pounds in just over a year or, start going to the gym. Work out and use the pool after.
Are you sure this is her reason, what happen to the "In health and sickness" maybe some counseling...huh?
2006-11-15 07:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can remain overweight and unhappy or like you said do it for you and your kids and eventually you will see a difference. There are many weight loss surgeries that can help. Look into it through your work insurance benefits. I believe you are anticipating being resentful towards her to shift the blame off of you. If you didn't want her to be honest about her feelings, you shouldn't have asked her. The truth hurts. Even if you two don't last, your health and your activity level with your children is the most important. Diet to have a life with whomever the future holds.
2006-11-15 07:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Physical attraction is a strong thing. I'm sure she still loves you but you may not be physically attractive to her anymore. Try to loose some weight and see what happens. I think you are using the excuse that you may feel resentful towards her, so you won't have to do anything. Good luck.
2006-11-15 07:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 and 1 2 hours bowling
2016-08-02 11:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always have vegetables on hand saute a big bag of frozen mixed vegetables in olive oil and garlic add some red pepper or turmeric for additional flavor and separate into portion sized containers for the fridge
2016-03-23 03:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break from blue moon belgian white a 164 calorie treat and grab a miller genuine draft which is only 64 cals
2016-08-31 01:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use the freezer to add some extra oomph to summer foods freeze grapes for some bite sized delights or get a popsicle mold and freeze some greek yogurt with berries
2016-08-19 17:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋