couples who have been married for a while...?

Question

is there any history of cheating in your relationship? How did you get thru it?

Answer 1

No, but I am constantly afraid of it. HE is a big flirt, but has never cheated, it's not in his character to cheat. It is just hard for me to trust. Just trusting your spouse is the only way to get over this.

Answer 2

No cheating the way your thinking of it, but even looking at sexy pictures is a form of emotional cheating. It takes a full commitment on the part of both spouses to avoid or overcome these issues. The penalty for cheating on my wife would be too high a price to pay for me to ever consider it. I don't want to lose everything I have worked for and have to start over again. In order to cope with the issue, you need great compassion, understanding, ability to forgive, and a truly penitent atitude on the part of the cheater for both parties to work through it. Most of the cases I have seen do not end happily.

Answer 3

Well we were married 5 years when he cheated the first time we had dated for 6 years before we married... and I was devastated, I could barley make it through each day. He meant the world to me! I agreed to give him another chance and 1 year later he did it again. I felt so betrayed...hurt, angry and stupid. We divorced and have been for three years now. He still calls consistently begging for another chance and professing his love. I just don't have it in me anymore... I feel so free now, I don't carry around this jealous-psychotic luggage anymore, I can lavish my kids with the attention and emotions that I was constantly pouring into him.
I suppose you can over come the adultery even though it will always be in the back of your mind... It is not the forgiving that was difficult it was leaving that hurt the worst. I knew I had to for me and my kids.

Answer 4

there isn't any history of cheating in our relationship but if there was to be. I don't know, I would probably go crazy and cut it off with him. I can't stay faithful to a man that is never faithful to me.

If you are going through this right now, I am sorry, just be strong and do what is best for you. not for the relationship, not for him and not for kids. DO IT FOR YOU.

Hope all works out.

Answer 5

If you really love your partner you can forgive just about anything, I found the best way to get thru it is to spend lots of serious time with your best friends, they will be the ones to get you thru the darkest moments in your life what ever they may be.

Answer 6

No cheating! Umm, i guess you just get lucky. You have to be in love completly and want to stay with that one person forever. Don't marry someone if you have even the smallest question if you truly love each other. Make things fresh in your marriage; try new things, go out on dates, watch movies together curled up on your couch, act silly, laugh at dumb things just because you can! Live, Laugh, and Love. Don't forget that you are blessed to have found someone who loves you back, and wants to be with you! Smile.

Answer 7

I don't know if it is something that will ever be worked through. It's too hard on all parts of a relationship. Trust especially.

Answer 8

I can't really say yes. One thing I know is that my hubby's co-worker is flirting with him. texting each other even off work. So, i comfronted him and the girl his working with and spoke to the girl's bf. But now we are okay. his trying to do his best to keep. plus I love my Hubby so much.

Answer 9

i was married for 22 years - can say i'm 99.9% sure he never cheated on me - i never cheated on him either, though i should have.

Answer 10

Its called divorce...

once a cheater always a cheater.