I am currently expecting my 4th baby. My sister-in-law says I can have all of her old baby clothes. The problem is I HATE hand me downs. They are gross. I prefer baby gap, old navy, childrens place, etc. What makes people think that someone else would want something their baby peed, pooped, and vomited on? How do I tell her I dont want her nasty hand me downs without hurting her feeling or making her feel like I think I am better than her?
2006-11-15 06:54:02 · 23 answers · asked by Mrs. Always Right 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I agree I think that handy me downs are nasty and that is just what they are hand me downs and I think that some one Else's taste are there own and I think that some peoples taste are wrong and I want to be able to chose what my baby wheres not wheat somebody Else's wants I agree with you I think that you should buy your own clothes I would I have my taste and my family has there I agree. And best of luck.
2006-11-15 07:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Ok chick listen by now you should know that babies outgrow clothes fast. I mean you're on your 4th child. I have no problem with hand me downs really but from my point of view here. You are really snobby. Let me guess you are one of those people that never have to wear an outfit twice? Clothes from like walmart and goodwill and places like that are just as good possiblly better than those name brand stores. Everything I have EVER bought from any of those fell apart not even a week later. Maybe I just shop at the wrong old navy or gap but their clothes are not really that well put together. Just an opinion. But if you don't want the clothes give them to someone that could really use them.
2006-11-15 15:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by pandiebear17 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone feels like you do. Personally, I too preferred new clothes. However, I was fortunate enough to be able to afford new clothes. There are people who either can't afford them, or see new clothes for a baby as a waste. It's really a matter of finances and personal preference. There is really nothing wrong with wanting or not wanting new baby clothes. The key is not to hurt other people's feelings.
If you don't want the clothes, tell her that you saw some things you already want for the baby and that you also have plenty of clothes left over from your other three children. Graciously thank her for the items (as it was intended as an act of kindness), and tell her that you really won't be needing them.
2006-11-15 15:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that you like the excitement of picking out new baby clothes, but you appreciate her offer. And, no offense, but you sound a bit snobby. I hope you have enough money to waste on clothes that your new baby will wear for just a few months and it's not just that you want to put your baby in name brand clothes. If you're not rich, I'd consider the hand-me-downs -- maybe you could save some $ to put 4 kids through college. Just a suggestion.
2006-11-15 14:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well,pi a rose on your nose! I buy clothes from ebay, goodwill, accept hand-me-downs, and buy new, old navy, gap, and childrens place. What do you think about me? Not all clothes have been pooped, peed, and vomited on! My feelings are truly hurt by such an ugly comment. I fear how your child will treat those less fortunate than her at around 13 years of age.
2006-11-15 15:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by lvminole 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmm must be nice to have 4 kids and still afford to shop at Baby Gap. Tell her I'll take her hand-me-downs lol. Just be honest with her and tell her you love the joy of buying new things for the new baby. Let her give the stuff to someone who will appreciate and use it.
2006-11-15 15:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hand me downs can be good especially if it is not used stuff. my partner and i gave all our new and used baby clothes to his sister she was happy to have them and did use them. if you feel that strongly then say to no thank you because i feel you should have them for your next baby (if they are going to have any more) if not you can always tell her that you already have enough clothes or just take them and go threw them and throw out or give to a charity shop anything you don't want. May be you should just swallow your pride and take the clothes. At times i regret giving all our baby clothes away especially as we want another baby as it is grow to cost a lot of money for the first few years to clothe a new baby as they grow out of everything so quickly. just do what you think is right but the sensible option is to just say no thank you and hope she is not to offended.
2006-11-15 15:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs Bond 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well do you have any clothes from your past three? If not does she know you got rid of them. You could just tell her you still have enough from previous children. I never wanted hand me downs with my first, I wanted everything new but then felt differently the second time around. They grow out of stuff so fast and stain stuff so easily I used a lot of hand me downs. They were from my first though so they were all my taste. I can understand if she has totally different taste then you do. You can take them, keep a couple for when you see her and donate the rest???
2006-11-15 15:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by megkenzee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never give people ratty clothes....ever. My sister gave me lots of clothes that my nephew outgrew but they were in perfect shape. Dress clothes especially, since they outgrow them before they can get destroyed. We both shop at Old Navy so it was no big deal.
If you don't want to hurt her feelings you could just take them and donate them to Goodwill or a battered woman's shelter. Just say you have plenty of clothes and thank her for thinking about you.
2006-11-15 15:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you do think you are better then her.
Explain to her that you appreciate the offer but feel someone else may benefit more. Suggest to her to take the clothes to the Salvation Army or to another place with a worthy cause. Explain that even though this is your fourth baby you are looking forward to buying all the cutesy outfits and going shopping. Ask her if she would like to come along.
If she is offended then so be it. You shouldn't feel bad about not choosing to use hand me downs. BUT--you should get a little attitude adjustment!
2006-11-15 14:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by .vato. 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I love hand me downs!!! I have never gotten anything that was gross everything that I have received was in excellent condition. I think you do sound like you are better than her. If you don't want them then just tell her you don't really need them and maybe there is someone who could use the more than you.
2006-11-15 16:49:52 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋