I realize how special her grandkids (my husbands younger sisters' kids) are to her, and that is her perogative. However, my husband and I don't have children. I am, of course, more adult-oriented. I prefer to use my money for nicer gifts for the adults and small gifts for the 2 kids who are already getting everything on the planet. Isn't it up to me how I ration my gift money? Would you say something?
2006-11-15 06:41:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to say it was Christmas gifts I'm referring to. Ive enjoyed reading the answers I've gotten so far, thanks!
2006-11-15 07:01:59 · update #1
I agree with you completely. If it is not freely given then it is not a gift. Perhaps you should ask your mother in law for some suggestions on exactly what your obligations (instead of gifts) should be.
Honestly its not worth it being confrontational with her, I would personally try explaining to her how much she hurt your feelings be telling you how you should spent money on gifts.
...I will still start calling them obligations under my breath though!
2006-11-15 06:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by wjduenow 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say a thing to deal 'ol mom in law, I'd spend the money the way I had planned on (except maybe leave out mom in law) LOL.
Coming from a parent of 2 kids that get about everything under the sun for Christmas/b'days/etc., it's kinda nice to get something nice for ME, instead of my kids, so I think what you're planning is very thoughtful, and will be very much appreciated by the adults in the family.
2006-11-15 06:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think how you spend your money is her business. As long as you buy her grandchildren a gift, the rest to be spent how you want. Kids get so many gifts at Christmas, they have little appreciation for the stuff they get. Adults are often forgot about. I'm glad you are in the spirit of giving, and should buy for who you want.
2006-11-15 06:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so some distance, approximately $600, yet i'm no longer close to finished. i'm a sort of final minute purchasers, i will in all threat wait til approximately 10 days earlier Christmas to truly get in there and do the procuring. i don't comprehend how plenty I spend. i'd say entire which contains friends, instructors, kin, youngsters & artwork acquaintances, in all threat approximately $2500. We used to offer $25 hams to all human beings in our community and all human beings affiiliated with our artwork, yet this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days we're not going to have the potential to try this. i pass to make pies & candy extremely. it relatively is greater much low priced. And the lecturers presents are going to be around $5 each and every extremely of the standard $25 - $30. i prefer to comprehend how all you human beings on listed decrease than have become out so much low priced!! i think of i became skimping by utilising! yet, I do have 3 youngsters, 2 nephews, grandparents, stepdaughter. variety of massive kin. i assume we make too huge a deal out of Christmas, yet we don't frequently purchase issues for our little ones in direction of the three hundred and sixty 5 days, different than birthdays - and garments - yet rarely ever any toys, electronics, etc.
2016-10-15 14:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately say something. Coming from someone who has had a MOL for over five years, it is better for you to stand your ground on things that are none of her business. The way you soend your money is your business. I can't believe she would even mention such a thing. Sounds like my MOL! Good luck!
2006-11-15 06:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't bother saying anything to her right now, there's no point in arguing if you know she won't change her mind. it's your right to spend your money as you see fit. buy everyone the gifts that you feel are appropriate for them. if she feels like her grandkids haven't gotten enough crap, she can go buy them more herself.
2006-11-15 06:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she wants so much money spent on those children to give you that amount, and then, and only then, you will go out and buy those gifts, otherwise, tell her to keep her comments to herself
2006-11-15 06:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a little taste of what your in for when it comes 2 mol, pushing the control buttons.. be true 2 yourself and stand your grounds.. don't let her buffalo you.. i'm not saying, go 2 war with her.. but silently let her know, she isn't in control of you or your money.. spend your money your way and shake some tail feathers : )
2006-11-15 07:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go to H*** your money you decide where it goes and too bad for her. If she wants to spend it on the kids its a free world. She has no right to tell you what to do
2006-11-15 06:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by ice_princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right in that she is just trying to make Christmas special for her grandkids. However, it IS your money!
Just smile and say thanks for the advice and then do what you wish lol
2006-11-15 06:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋