I'm new here and really don't know what to expect, well here goes;
I'm a gay man and have been in a monogamus relationship for 3 years, my boyfriend on occassion used to ask me to dress up, I don't have a problem with that since I'm very effininate to begin with, recently he's been asking me to dress up all the time, even when we go out.....I am very passable, but I'm kind of confused if maybe he wants someone else. I've asked him this and he said no, but I'm still confused and concerned. Any ideas or suggestions?
2006-11-15 06:24:07 · 15 answers · asked by Lexi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
maybe he just thinks you look really sexy when you dress up but I would not change who you are and if it is making you feel uncomfortable I would stop and have a long talk with him to see how he feels but I bet he just thinks you look great and it turns him on big time
2006-11-15 06:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad to have you here with us in the gay/lesbian section. Word of advice....expect to see a lot of ugly postings here and there and don't get offended by it!
As far as your boyfriend asking you to dress up all the time...well, I don't quite know how to respond to that. The stubborn female in me wants to tell you to tell him that if he wants a woman to go find a woman! He should be happy with you the way you are. But then I'm hearing you say that in some ways you don't mind it. I think that ya'll both need to find a happy medium with this especially YOU! He has to understand that there may be times when he wants it but you may be uncomfortable with it! Good luck!
2006-11-15 16:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dress up into a woman? Well maybe he just wants people to know that he is the dominate one of you two. You know how there is always a bottom of the two. Maybe he just prefers that you try to be a cross dresser. Maybe he has a kinky twisted fantasy that you don't know about. Maybe he just enjoys being with a woman type figure going out. You need to talk to him a little more.
2006-11-15 14:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him further and ask him what exactly you dressing up does for him. If its a playful thing and its sexual I would do it. If its a role playing thing of str8ght for his security I would say no.. But you probably look hot both ways... Its kind of like being with someone who wears many wigs.. You always get something new...
2006-11-15 17:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by mylife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him "no" when you don't want to dress up. Tell him you dont' mind doing it a bit but you're not going to dress up all the time as you like to be you. The way you word it above is good. If he understands then it's good, if he freaks (which he won't I hope) then it's as you feared, he is confused.
2006-11-15 14:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by rchlbsxy2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, maybe he feels uncomfortable with people knowing he is gay, and so he makes you dress up to make it look like he's someone he's not. I would stop dressing up if I were you, he should be happy with you and proud of being with you no matter what.
2006-11-15 14:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would a gay guy want you to dress like a sexy woman? sounds to me as if hes not quite sure what he wants. you on the other hand uif your comfortable dressing do it but on your terms, if you are not what hes looking for then move on and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are not hwo they want you to be. i am a bi xdresser i love my gf dearly and she puts up and indulges my little hobby. but neithe rof us forces the other to do or be anything they are not
2006-11-16 02:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Sounds like he just really likes the way you dress up. If he says there is nothing to worry about... then I would not worry.
2006-11-15 14:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by joy f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very common desire - I thin it is fine as long as you enjoy it also. I don't think he wants anyone else I think he wants the YOU that YOU create when you dress up.
2006-11-15 14:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he just wants to show you off. If iam wrong i stand corrected. I think he just wants people to see you and notice the two of you thats all.
2006-11-15 14:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋