My son is 14. He has no respect for most people but even worse for women. He is my stepson and has only lived with his father and I for about 4 months and alot of things are coming to light that are causing us to panic. I need help and advice form others who have been where we are. I also need info on websites where I can find printed material about respect for women. His father and I are going to have him research and write a report about that. Please IM me if you have anyting to offer!!
2006-11-15 06:09:17 · 14 answers · asked by melissa31011 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I should add that I also have daughthers that I expect the same level of respect to others from. This is not an issue of men vs. women but when my 14 year old child walks thru school slapping girls on the rear saying " Your my Ho!....#ithches...Yea that's right I am a pimp" I have other things he has said and done that let me know he has real women issues.
2006-11-15 06:20:55 · update #1
I want everyone that repsones to my question to know that I am reading all of your post and I am thankful you are taking the time to answer.
2006-11-15 13:13:56 · update #2
i believe that such behavior is very abusive!! i think that it is not the parents fault in this. i believe your son should be taught the right manners on how to show respect for women by talking him to pyshcology. i believe that it may be some of his friends and the music and tv he watches and listens to. i suggest you watch carefully to what he watches and also not let him and stay out to late. I think it is his friends and the pressure he gets that may have caused this some friends learn this and share it so he might have been influenced from this and had no choice but to join on what they are doing having a parent meeting with all students should help brainstorm on this idea. you should see who he makes friends with and who he idolizes and what he does i believe as he learns more respect from women and a better influence from people it will go away and he will learn to respect other women in a equal value and also other people as well... i really hope this helps and good luck
2006-11-15 08:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sends up red flags all over the place to me. I assume that you are married to his father, and he's lived with his mom and whatever pieces of crap she's been going out with. This is the first time that your stepson has lived with you.
If you are not married to his father (or at least darn close to it), you are encouraging the bad behavior, by sending the message that marriage and real commitment is not important.
In the meantime, let him know that the next time you hear any of this crap, all the offensive video games, and music are gone. Nothing but Ms. Pac-Man and classical music.
You pay the bills - the room where he sleeps is "your room", too. Search it if there are future problems. If his friends do this, too, then let him know that he's hangin' with hoodlums, and if he doesn't want to be treated like a criminal, then he needs to get new friends that are nicer people, or tell his friends to shape up when any other adults are around.
Education is nice, but unless you take this seriously, and make it hurt a little for him, he probably won't care. It's a joke until it really affects him.
2006-11-15 07:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Polymath 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he needs counseling or something because that is NOT acceptable....i have a friend that is just like that -- he has a "pimp" attitude and NO RESPECT AT ALL for young women...but one day he told a girl that she was his ***** and she kicked him in the testicles and had him on the ground crying for a COOOL minute until the paramedics arrived. he ended up with testicular damage and had to get one removed.........so i am begging you to get him some professional help before he messes with the wrong person
2006-11-15 13:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Renee` 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beat his azz, not abusively but yes he will get the point. I'm 15 and I've seen this stuff. treating him like 5 year old will not help. I'm not trying to be rude but this is the way the world works.
2006-11-15 09:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
his father is the one who can teach him respect women by respecting other women.
sometimes fathers talk disrespectful about others, ( women's) they think it is a jock but kids do not get it, and start behaving badly.
you might need to get some professional help
Good Luck
2006-11-15 06:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be a bit late, but look at the link below, its all about teaching respect. Good luck :D
2006-11-15 06:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
www.respectforwomen.com
I have not been in the same situation as you, but I do know parents who have been. Treating them the way they are treating the other will not help, but videotaping there actions and watching them watch themselves does. There are many things that your son needs to learn. I am glad that you are taking the time to help him.
2006-11-15 06:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Day 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was taught where he lived before? Make sure if you demand respect from him to the opposite sex that you do so with your daughters also. take him to counseling, and try talking to him about his behavior.
2006-11-16 08:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes just playing around i used to do the samething when i was his age which i am now 15.
2006-11-15 10:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you state that he is yr stepson, may i say that you are his stepmom?
children who disrespect women in such circumstances usually do it because one of their kin (either mom or dad) has left them. perhaps he hated his natural mother for leaving him, as such bearing a grudge for women.
feel free to slap him when you find him too overbearing; riding over you.
2006-11-17 04:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by `teeveebee- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋