one of my bosses talks to me like I'm a moron...?

Question

I work for a GP practice & one of them talks "down " to me like I'm a child or worse , like I'm retarded . Whatever I say , It's the wrong thing . I'm pretty intelligent - ok , I didn't go to med school , but I went to college , passed all my exams and have since completed an NVQ level 3 ( the equivelent of an "A" level ) and passed my ECDL in computers whilst holding down a full time job and looking after a home and family .Why do I let it get to me?

Answer 1

Just realize, it's his problem not yours.
Your desire for him to treat you a certain way
actually gives him power.
Your self esteem is inside of you.
And his treatment is unrelated to your real value.
Try to understand WHY he acts this way.
Try to develop empathy.
Stop trying to impress him (i know you are because you tried to impress us in your statement of your achievements)
Give up on what others think of you.
Be impeccable. Do your work well.
So you can think well of yourself.
Your opinion is more important than anyone else.

Answer 2

well first off I'd just like to say congrats on completing your education I'm currently enrolled into college right now. Now to your question......
The reason that you let it get to you is because you know that he/she expects more out of you and you don't understand how to give more. I've been in that type of situation but under different circumstances. Try becoming more involved in why your boss is doing this ask to see what you could do to improve your skills at your job. Let your boss know that you are willing to be the top dog at your work. This may tone down the criticism. Good luck!

Answer 3

I experienced the same thing with my boss during the first three-four months of employment as the company office manager/bookkeeper/network admin. Gradually I realized that he really had previously employed only a few good quality employees who were all he wished for (competent, interested in/cared about their job). Consequently, he assumed that I too was very probably a moron, and so he had all these rules and procedures he wanted me to follow "for my own good". Which meant that unless I followed every mindless procedure, I was sure to screw up, because when it got down to it I was an idiot (so he thought.)

To try to overcome his poor perception of me and my competency, I simply continued to try to do my job to the best of my ability, like I always did. In months three and four of my employment, my willingness to really think while I worked and to dig deeper into the details of things resulted in me uncovering mistakes (that ironically my boss had made) that, upon correction, made our company over $40,000. Not in savings, but in actual additional revenue. He never really fully acknowledged or even thanked me for that, but ever since then he has treated me with a lot more respect, and he has not insisted I follow mindless time-wasting procedures. Because after all, I'm not an idiot, and he knows that now.

I was fortunate to discover the errors that resulted in increased revenue, but I think that if you continue to do what you've always did, your boss will over time recognise you for what you are: a smart, competent asset to the company. Hang in there. Most people are slow to change their perceptions, but over time, perceptions do change.

Answer 4

People like that are insecure in their own intelligence. Apparently he is trying to impress it upon you that he is an educated person.

The next time he talks to you like that, wait patiently and then say, "Good boy! Thank you for sharing that!" Smile and walk away. If you really want to twist it a little bit, scratch him behind the ear or offer him a biscuit.

Answer 5

please don't let it get to you I have the same problem at my job we switch managers so much that I get tired of telling them all the same thing. It's not What you do, It's How you do it. pull your boss to the side and tell him/her how you feel and that you want the same respect that You give to him/her I've learned you have freedom of speech say whats on your mind but by all means please don't curse or get nasty with it, thats grounds of termination for insubordination to your boss. kindness will kill.And if that doesn't work take it to his/her boss and explain your situation.It's a chain of command that you have to go through. YOU'RE NOT A MORON GET YOUR RESPECT THAT YOU DESERVE!