My boyfriend cant really seem to get aroused anymore, He said he tried to today by flirting with me, but he cant without thinking of something like another girl with me. Will this go on forever? Did i lose my looks? He tells me im his girl and he loves me very much and wouldnt trade me for anything in the world, Whats going on with his body and mind? Ive tried to like some of the things he likes, and im working on it, Help??? How can I get myself to not be scared? I hate this rotten feeling like a girl will take him away, or he will fall in love with someone else, and dont give me any of the Your so young Bullsh*t. Im 18, going on 19, Give me an ACTUAL ANSWER! He says im so beautiful, But I think everyone else is better, and he thinks on girl is cute and he asks me if I think she is cute and I just say "Sure" Help?? He says im so much better, and that no one will be better than me. Whats wrong with me? And whats wrong with him? why cant he get aroused anymore?
2006-11-15 05:37:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are so young. i believe him when he says you are beautiful. but you are so young. sex isn't everything in a relationship. put yourselves some space.
2006-11-15 05:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is in a cross road on deciding if he wants to go play or keep you. He is testing how far he can go as far as looking and asking about other girls. Be careful. Start to see if he will react with lingerie, cute ones, then if he doesn't react. Try be naughty and do something different out of the ordinary in the sack. There's only so much someone can do, but if there is still a problem and he isn't giving out. Be prepared to let it go, it's just like that saying so famously known "If you love him let him go, if he returns than he loves you. " It's hard I'm not at any point saying that it's like "poof" easy, no. You will probably need to find friends and family for any kind of support for the meanwhile just to build yourself in case this happens. I hope this helps.
2006-11-15 13:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound desperate. A desperate woman can put a lot of pressure on a man, and this creates performance anxiety, which makes the erectile dysfunction worse. The best thing you can do for him is stop talking about it. If he brings it up, tell him it's no big deal. All men go through periods of impotence, and it really is NOT a big deal. You relax, and that will help him relax. Continue to kiss and cuddle and fool around, such as getting him to perform oral sex on you, but, before you start, tell him it doesn't matter to you at all if he can get an erection or not. If you take this attitude, his penis will soon start to stiffen once more.
2006-11-15 13:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just described is usually a sign of cheating. If you have to try to like some of the things he likes that's incompatibility.
Age has nothing to do with it. These things happen even at 60 years old. Sometimes guys just tell you what they know you want to hear. That is very cruel.
You need to find out now for sure if cheating is in the picture. Don't waste time on this.
2006-11-15 13:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it physical arousal or metal? Physical there is nothing "you" can do. Could be stress, tired, alcohol problem, drugs, many different things.
Mental arousal, bigger problem. He may just not be that in to you. He may look at sex with you like a chore more than a pleasure. If you are pressuring his for sex stop, not all men like that. Let him be the one to make the moves.
2006-11-15 13:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pressure to perform can't help matters much
2006-11-15 13:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋