I just want to know if its possible. I'd like to hear from people that r still with the person that cheated on them, and if it's possible to be happy again. And also, how do you get past it?
2006-11-15 05:15:04 · 14 answers · asked by Kristin K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together for 5 years. I want to stay with him. I do love him but i just dont know if i'll be able to do this. He tells me that he's sorry everyday. I know that they all say that. But he does act like he's sorry. I don't know....I just feel like a damn idiot.
2006-11-15 05:22:21 · update #1
We have been talking a lot. And he also let's me know where he is and if he's going to be working late. He says that this is the worst thing that he's ever done and that he realizes how much I mean to him. I'm just going through SSOOO much crap right now. I have a 9 year old disabled son and I am his only care taker. Besides when he's in school. And since this past Saturday my parents are staying with us because they got kicked out of their house. They don't know that he cheated on me. All of the people that I have told that know him just could NOT believe that he would have EVER been able to do this!! But he says he doesn't want to lose me and he's been doing things to try to get my trust back. He says he's not going to give up. I just want to be happy with him again!
2006-11-15 05:35:57 · update #2
If you believe he will never cheat again and he has only done it once, you can get past it.
If they cheat more than once and still promise to change, forget it.
2006-11-15 05:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This didn't happen to me personally but, it did to my niece. Her husband not only cheated on her but he moved in with another woman. Thank Goodness he came to his senses and begged for forgiveness. My nieces world fell apart while he was gone. But, she forgave him. She realized that the whole blame did not belong on his shoulders totally.....they talked it out and got back together. That was 5 years ago and their marriage is better than it ever was. It was very hard for her at first.. she didn't totally trust him and he had to earn that back. He would call if he was going to be late. He also paid her more attention..etc. and they talk. I think that is the key issue. Talk without being accusing. People can recover from this if they both are serious about making their relationship work
2006-11-15 13:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed with an ex who cheated on me and we lasted for a few years. However, and anyone will tell you this, it's not the same. Something essential has been broken. The whole dynamic changed- he became very timid and afraid, I got bossy and rude.
However, despite my experience, I think it can be done. If it was an honest mistake and happened one time and the person is truly sorry, it can work. It really, as in all cases, depends on the two people involved.
2006-11-15 13:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Answer this: Will you be able to really trust him again? Or will it always be in the back of your head? What if you have to go out of town and can't get a hold of him, would you be wondering were he's at, and with who and can he be cheating again.
I feel once a cheater always a cheater.
If he didnt love you enough the first time not to hurt you, what makes you think he's gonna love you enough this time.
1st impressions.......
He's a dog and dog makes his own bed. Now he must go lie in it.
2006-11-15 14:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by sweet4saucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband cheated on me and i stayed and it eat me up everyday,but my relationship was longer than yours,,,,,but a cheat is always a cheat..Anyway I ended up leaving after the anger kelp building up.my anger built up because I knew it first hand and he refused to admit what i knew he did.So after 2 years of having my heart broken over his affair,I could no longer trudt him..What is a relationship without trust? anyway I loved him too and I left him even though I loved him,and I got over it and now as I look back there were many red flags that I failed to see.I am happily married to a non cheater and have never looked back,why live your life in fear of another cheat?
2006-11-15 13:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me out of seven years 3 times. No i dont trust him, i dont know why, i stay, mostly likely for my daughter, but we do get along, but since he cheated last we are getting along, we talk more, its nobody in the picture, he moved us three hours away from my home town over his last cheating, this girl, claimed she was pregnant, and she wasnt. I am trying to get past it, but i havent since the second girl. It takes time, if you work on it.
2006-11-15 13:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really get over someone doing that to you. It effects relationships that you may have in the future. Being single is not a bad thing. You can enjoy life and not have to worry about keeping tabs on a soul mate. Wish you luck!
2006-11-15 16:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by fred k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took her back, but I have to say our relationship is totally different now. Its almost like to entirely different people.
Who I was before is dead and who I am now is a stronger person and very different and in some ways the opposite of what I was. I can't say the same is true for my wife, but she is also different from the person I knew before.
Don't if this helps
2006-11-15 14:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he cheated when we were first dating. Now, 3 yrs later, we are engaged and very happy.
2006-11-15 13:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I attempted to stay but you can never trust, and you live in police state. checking up on them over and over again
if you're married Id say you have more to fight for
2006-11-15 13:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋