I suspected that my wife had been fooling around, and when I confronted her with the evidence, she denied everything and said it would never happen again. I still don't believe her. What should I do now?
2006-11-15 05:14:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she denied everything and then said it would never happen again, sounds like to me that she is GUILTY. DAAAAAAAAAA
2006-11-15 05:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by kjlh58 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You think she is cheating yet you said your confronted her with evidence she denied and said it would never happen again. That would be the first indicator that yes you were right she was cheating. You should be open honest and direct as you said you were talking to her about this. Let her know that you will not tolerate this behavior from her and if it continues you will have to figure out what is in your best interest. Ask her how she would feel if you cheated on her. Respect yourself enough not to tolerate a cheating spouse. Love is not a cheat or liarer love is open honest and direct a unity
2006-11-15 13:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't "think" she's cheating on you....you "know" she's cheating on you. How long have you been married? and think about why she is cheating? Many people can overcome a cheating spouse and revert back to a honest and healthy relationship. Yet, I believe a marriage is tainted when a spouse cheats...it cracks the foundation the marriage is built upon. It's not easy to restore trust...it's very difficult. Many people say that a cheater/liar has deeply rooted psychogical issues and recommend counseling. I don't think it's necessary. It's acutally quite simple, your wife is looking elsewhere for what your marriage lacks. Counsel yourselves and be adults. No one can really solve your problems for you. You have to be the one to make the decision and you will be the one who has to live with it. The decision you make will change your life...which is probably why some people choose to stay in unfulfilling miserable situations...they are afraid of change. Change is good my friend..and everyone deserves to be happy. That goes for both you and your cheating wife.
2006-11-15 13:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Petra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doubt and suspicion are two poisons that would break even the strongest of bonds. Let go of your suspicion if you truly love her. Love denotes trust too. You would be surprised to know that sometimes the circumstantial evidence that we have gathered, are really that-just circumstantial - nothing more- Do you believe that I and a female friend had went to a hotel with two male colleagues to make reservations for an office guest ..and lo and behold , when we were on our way out - her husband happened to see us. and do you know that her husband, did not take her wife's word for it? You should take your wife's denial at face value. Believe her and trust her. That is what matrimony and true love are all about - UNCONDITIONAL love and trust.
2006-11-15 13:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"she denied everything and said it would never happen again" She admitted it right there.... It would Never Happen Again... Shes telling you she did right there.. No one can honestly tell you what to do, you need to decide if you will ever be able to trust her again, and if not, what kind of marriage would that be? Another thing, why not try marriage couciling? Its an idea.. No matter what people tell you on here, your the only one who can make up your mind on whats the "right thing to do"..
2006-11-15 13:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by jaden4231980 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always feel this way about my hubby, yet I stick it out only to be unhappy. The fact that she told you it will never happen again is a clear indicator that it did happen. You need to open your eyes and ask yourself what you want. If you want her then you two need to sit down and talk. Communication is the key when working on your relationship. Counseling is the next step. I hope it works the way you want it too.
2006-11-15 13:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
open communications again, get every side out in the open. Decide now if you two are going to have an open and honest life together or a miserable life checking on each others moves. Life's too short and there are too many lonely people to live with distrust.
Best of luck
2006-11-15 13:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust your relationship will never be the same. You have either got to believe her or if not then get counseling if you choose and try to work it out. But I believe once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-11-15 13:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you read your paragraph? your wife DENIED it, then said, "it WOULD NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN" I caught that. she cheated. I believe it will happen again because she won't even confess.
2006-11-15 13:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Monogamy is for kids. Both of you should be able to have discrete affairs with others.
2006-11-15 13:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by connor g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋