I'm married to a cheater...a player..a snake...and I have a baby. I'm not poor but I need to move out ASAP. I can save my money in 2 months and leave but I prefer to find a way out now. My friends have their own relationships and/or kids and my mom has a full house. Are their programs for women needing to get out sooner rather than later?
2006-11-15 05:10:37 · 23 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
join the club.
first, can you tell us how you got yourself hooked up with this dude?
yes there are shelters for women like you, call around.
Hospitals have the most up to date and available lists.
good luck.
2006-11-15 05:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to leave now, then do so...check in your area for women's shelters, if you have to...get a motel room, whatever it takes...there is help out there if you need it...I'm in a similar situation...I don't believe he's actively cheating right now, but he had a serious problem with the internet and chat and porn while he was supposed to be watching our infant son while I was at work...and things haven't been the same since, and someday I will get out, too...don't give up...don't be afraid to ask for help, and don't put up with his bullsh*t any longer than you have to...make sure you have a vehicle in your name, and all your things together and if you can swing it, move out while he's not home...and leave him a nice little letter telling him what a dumbass he is and what he's lost and just where he can go...
2006-11-15 13:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by HRM Queen Victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a women's shelter if you stay to try and save the money, how do you know he want spend it all. If he is a snake he'll find your money or sweet talk you into letting him borrow it. It's a sad case when you can't find a way out, but a shelter is your best bet.
2006-11-15 13:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every city has a shelter for women in need; call any chapter of the Salvation Army for more information. They will be able to direct you to the right place. Good luck, I hope you're strong enough to make the break for good.
2006-11-15 13:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kayt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call social services and ask for emergency help for shelter/expenses. And don't count your friends out. Explain what you need, if you trust them not to tell what your planning. You may be surprised that they're willing to help with short term shelter. Grab whatever you and your child need and get out of there. Remember, possessions can be replaced but you and your baby can't be. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-15 13:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The program is to change the locks and throw his stuff on the doorstep. Kick him out and let him worry about it. After all, he's the liar, cheat and snake, right? So why should you have to suffer any inconvenience. Call the police if he tries to harass you.
2006-11-15 13:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could call a women's shelter, but they are generally reserved for physical abuse cases. Call anyway though and explain the situation. If they are not full, they may be able to help you.
Perhaps call the pastor at your church. He may know of a family who could help you out for awhile or if you might qualify for a church-sponsored loan or gift.
God bless!
2006-11-15 13:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out, get a restraining order and he cannot come back, if he wont leave call the cops and have him removed. You have the baby so the place is yours, make him worry about where he is going to lay his cheating head at night!
2006-11-15 13:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of any programs for women except for houses for women who are abused. If that's the case, call the county social services. If it's not, be brutal and sly. Get yourself a bank account that he won't know about and take your time getting out. Sock away all the cash (yours and HIS) that you can and keep him out of your business. godloveya.
2006-11-15 13:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just found out that if you file a case with the court you can actually have him removed from the residence on a temporary restraining order. (i wish i had this info 4 years ago) tha's if you feel you are in danger though. try the red cross as well.
2006-11-15 13:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋