she worked with this guy and she talked about him all the time,said he was funny,crazy,sat with him at breaks,etc... never thought much about it until she told me one day that this guy told people at work that she cornered him in the parking lot after work,she denied it,but later told me they were talking in the parking lot about a promotion he might get, she worked late hours so i have no idea how long they were out there,although he told people they were out there for three hours,my wife says only one hour at the most! she said it was just rumors and he was lying,but i threatened to go to this guy and find out myself,thats when she told me she asked him out for a drink,she said she was just joking and wanted to know why he was out there, well i dont know who to belive, all i know is she was in a parking lot with another man for at least an hour instead of coming home to her family. can anyone make sense of this?
2006-11-15 05:10:15 · 17 answers · asked by birdman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's not cheating now, she will be soon. She's obviously enjoying the attention this man seems to give her.
2006-11-15 05:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell ya a parking lot is not terribly conducive to sexual encounters. I've also stood in a parking lot talking to a female co-worker for more than an hour. Yeah, she was cute and interesting. Yeah, it was pleasant to talk to her. We talked about her job and mine, her kids and mine, her husband and my estranged wife, what the future might hold and we even made up several ribald songs poking fun at administration where we worked, our spouses, our in-laws, politicians and clergy. When we parted we always gave each other a hug, and the last time we met - 'cause I was on my way from New York to Alaska - we shared a very sensual and lingering kiss along with that hug. So you see, she may not be getting it on with this guy. One might wonder why she found it so fascinating to stand there and talk to me instead of rushing right home to hubby and kids. Well, that's why - there are times when doing that can feel like being trapped and smothered, and a chance to interact with another human being on a level above that of mere co-worker yet below that of sexual intimacy is a welcome diversion. So don't panic, yo. She may be telling you the truth, and if you get acting all suspicious, you could drive her into another man's bed in retaliation. Yes, she may also be lying. Give it a chance before you go off half-******. No marriage is perfect - and you, my man, are certainly not the perfect husband. She sees your warts - just as you see hers. If she's reaching the point where she wants out of the marriage, she'll let you know. Want to combat that possibility? Make coming home to you a most pleasant experience. Ask her what she's missing in life and try your damnedest to fill that emptiness. Remeber - it ain't all about you, and it ain't all about her - it's all about both of you!
2006-11-15 05:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, keep your eyes open. It doesn't sound like she is being honest with you - the way she changes her version of what happened in the parking lot. I would confront her directly - you don't have to accuse her of cheating - as you have no info that she has - say that you are concerned with the level of interest she shows in this guy, and the fact that she said she had asked him out for drink, and ask her straight up if she has feelings for him. And it is perfectly legitimate to ask her "Why are you staying late after work to spend time with this guy instead of coming home to me?"
2006-11-15 06:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry this has you so upset. anybody would be. I'm certainly no expert, but it sure sounds like somethings up. your wife has lied to you, and of all things, about another man. I can't prove whether or not she's having an affair with this man, but she has lied to you about him on more than one occasion, so that definitely tells me that she's protecting him, and some kind of relationship they have together, and yes, putting him before you and your children. therefore it appears as if she's willing to jeopardize her family for whatever she has with this man.
I would definitely confront her about this, and tell her that you want to know everything, good or bad. and if you still feel that she's not telling you the truth, go to her place of employment and start asking people some questions, maybe even talk to the guy she's so interested in. just don't tell her that you're going to do it because she would tell her colleagues not to talk to you.
I hope things work out for you.
2006-11-15 05:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say........but, she sounds like a bored wife. It could be innocent enough but I wouldn't count on it. So far, she has lied, asked a guy out for a drink and spent atleast one hour in the parking lot! The fact that she didn't come strait home pretty much explains everything.
2006-11-15 05:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see most people as who they are. Also from personal experience I hope that I can help you. She may not be cheating on you, but may enjoy spending time with this person. Stupid way of looking at it, but would you mind, if the person she spent a lot of time chatting with was a female friend?
Maybe the person she has been talking to just likes to work hard, and doesn't mind spending a lot of time on something as long as it gets done, and is done well. She just likes spending time with this person, and because he would usually be spending that time working, he sees it as no difference, but you do, as it seems she would rather be spending time away from home, that at home. If you can afford it, try and go on a nice holiday, and enjoy yourselves. Do as much as you can together to build your relationship.
If you cannot afford it, just try going for walks with each other of a weekend. It gives you quality time together, and again, a chance to build your relationship.
Good Luck, I hope everything turns out well for you.
2006-11-15 05:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Little Red Riding Hood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not screwing him now, she soon will be and there is nothing you can do about it. If you confront her, she'll deny it and you'll end up in an argument or fight. After the fight, she'll be pissed at you and want him even more. It has passed the point of no return brotha'. Not saying she's gonna leave you...just saying she's gonna screw this other guy...at a minimum.
2006-11-15 06:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay on top of this one!!! The potential affair is there. It sounds fishy to me that her story changed after you threatened to confront this guy. That is a big sign, obviously she is already lying to you and got caught. Keep an eye on her!
2006-11-15 05:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's potential there. She shouldn't put herself in a compromising situation. Even if she thinks it's innocent, it gives others the wrong idea and puts a strain on your marriage.
Anytime a spouse gets close to someone like that who takes her away from her family, it should be stopped.
2006-11-15 05:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she putting herself in this situation? Ask her how she would feel if you were doing the same thing. I can tell you this, most likely she is cheating unless she is an extraordinary woman who can completely ignore the fact that someone is funnier, smarter, and possibly more attractive than her husband.
2006-11-15 05:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be cheating yet but you can bet it is comming the man that she works with has only only one thing on his mind and that is to get in her panties.If it were me I would confront him and tell him.Tell you wife to quite talking to him really law the law down to her.Sounds like she is wanting him.
2006-11-15 05:39:11 · answer #11 · answered by Cherokee indian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋