2006-11-15 04:29:57 · 55 answers · asked by Isabelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
happens all the time in long term relationships.....some times your in love..... other times you know you love them, although they're being a pain in the ***,,,...if when you wake up in the morning and the first thing you want to do is roll over and hug them then your in love......
2006-11-15 08:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by David M 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In my experience it means that the person making this statement is confused. Sometimes tramatic events or breakups bring this response from those who have separated, divorced, or have gotten back together. Usually the individual who makes this statement has been hurt and doesn't know how to deal with their pain. This individual sometimes falls in "love" with their negative emotions and thus clings to the statement that they love but not in love.
My theory is that love= committment which means that if they say they are in love but not in love they may care for you, but may not want to be committed to you. The best thing is to give space and do some things that make you happy and if it is meant to be, love will resurface. If not you should have enough love for yourself to move on.
Good Luck and I'll pray that everything works out the way you wish it too!!!!
2006-11-15 05:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That means there is a follow up question you need to ask, "Who are you in love with?"
From my experience, that question usually means they now believe they are in love with another person.
I'd say 9 out of every 10 times, if not more like 99/100, that is code for I'm having an affair, but I'm not brave enough to tell you yet, and I hope I can get out of our relationship without hurting you too bad.
2006-11-15 04:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Someone in love can still be with you and work things out but someone who only loves you means that the feeling is there, but not as much as before (if that's the case) or just not all the way head over heels
2006-11-15 04:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this means the difference between the "passionate love" and the "companionate love". It seems that what people refer to as being "in love" is a blend of passion and intimacy that is characteristic of the early stages of a relationship - it is the romantic love that is glorified in novels, songs and poetry. Much of the time, the passion/infatuation fades as the relationship continues. In a successful long term partnership, committment becomes stronger as passion grows weaker, and this combination of strong committment and deepening intimacy is probably what people who have been together for a long time refer to as "love".
2006-11-15 04:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the difference is the person loves you like a close family friend but not a girlfriend.
2006-11-15 04:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A big difference - just to love is the love you feel for say a brother or sister but to be 'in love' with someone is that special kind of romantic, passionate love that you feel - the kind 'I want to be with you forever'.
2006-11-15 05:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The difference is the depth of emotion.
When you love someone, you care for them deeply, but can control your emotions.
When you are in love with someone, you are willing to give in totally and emotionally to that someone, even though you know that doing so could destroy you. You can't control it, and you don't want to control it. But being in love, makes you believe that they won't destroy you.
Does that make sense?
2006-11-15 04:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Blu-Mu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, saying that you love someone but not in love, means that maybe you love the idea of them. Like you love a friend or family member. When you are in love with someone, you love everything about them intimately(not just sexually). I don't really know for sure, that is just my opinion. :)
2006-11-15 04:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have that burst of love that consumes a person at the beginning of the relationship. His love for you is the kind that most people have after they've been married for 5 years. Nothing wrong with that if you're okay with it.
2006-11-15 04:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Easy loving someone is like loving your parents, in love with someone is like knowing that person is the greatest in your world. To have a relationship that will last, being in love is ideal.
2006-11-15 04:32:08 · answer #11 · answered by Saint 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋