When she has no room to talk (her husband used to be a junkie.)
2006-11-15 04:29:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good idea,
2006-11-15 04:35:15 · update #1
I never talk about her husband,he's scary.
2006-11-15 04:36:02 · update #2
You made a choice to be with this person,regardless of his/her past or of his/her present dealings...YOU made a choice to be with this person.So you defend this person against WHOEVER comes against them.That is your duty...your promise of love.Until this person proves himself/herself unworthy of you...that is what you do.If you find that you CAN'T do that...than you need to re-evalute your feelings as well as your decision to be with this person.
2006-11-15 04:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by blackfirevii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what is being said. She may only be saying it because she is concerned for you and just because her husband is a junkie doesn't mean she likes it any more than she likes whatever it is she is criticizing.
2006-11-15 12:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by akb962491 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anyone was to speak poorly of my partner I'd let them know right from the get-go that they had better cease and desist this type of ranting immediately. I would not mention that he man was a past junkie (as you are not discussing him) but let the person know that you really don't appreciate it and if they continue then your friendship may be endangered.
2006-11-15 12:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you talk to her about your significant other? If you do, it opens the communication up. Are the things she says mean and hateful or are they just reflections of what you have been saying(and the truth)? If its unsolicited critiques, then tell her that you would rather not discuss your significant other or change the subject.
2006-11-15 12:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Marley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, say how you feel, stand up for your beliefs, DO NOT put her spouse down. Her choice of mate has nothing to do with yours. If it gets worse, make a point in saying that it hurts your feelings when your friend criticizes your mate.
2006-11-15 12:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ravenne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good friend is one who has an open ear and may give suggestions, but should never criticize your choice in mate. Accepting you means accepting your choices!
2006-11-15 12:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by VISUAL ILLISIONS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have an obligation to stand up for your b/f or spouse, unless there is abuse or extremely unhealthy situations. If he is a good man stand by him and he will stand by you. She needs to respect your decisions as your friend. Let her know that. Good luck
2006-11-15 12:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Joshuwa G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because of her hubby, she sees something you don't.
2006-11-15 13:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you dont want to hear it again
2006-11-15 12:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SMACK HER! ;)
2006-11-15 12:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by GITTIN_FREAKIE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋