i have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 3 years!!!
but with break ups... i went to ecuador for 6 months came back... and we got back!!!
sense july... he went to live to tampa (2 hours from here), because college with his friend martin!!
well a month ago i found out that he cheated on me having sex with another girl over there!!!
well he cry, and he told he regret!! i basically forgive him (because i love him, and i feel that with out him i cant be)!! but at the same time i cant stop thinking about it!!
sense then he has change he actually does everything for me, he even comes every weekend to be with me, and his family!!!
but i dont know if im taking the right decision!!!
2006-11-15 04:27:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to decide whether or not you can forgive your boyfriend and move on. If you truly love him and think that you may be together for the long term, then you should consider forgiving him. Even if you can't stop thinking about it now, you must find a way to put it out of your mind and move on, or the two of you will never be able to rebuild the trust that is needed for a long-term relationship.
On the other hand, if you do not think that his change in behavior and apologies are sincere, you should move on. If you cannot look past the fact he cheated on you and allow yourself to trust him, then you will never make it. Regardless of how difficult the decision may seem at the time, you will recover. The world is full of millions upon millions of people - your chances for finding another, even stronger love are very good.
Either way, the decision lies with you. Look into your heart, be honest with yourself, and be brave enough to make the decision that you truly believe will lead you to happiness.
Buenos suerte.
2006-11-15 04:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by wickedwit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just think about it, can you really forgive a guy that hurt you? Yes, you can forgive, but you can NEVER forget. You see, the thing is that no matter how many times he will tell you that he will be better (he might) but you can never forget that incident. Don't you ever say that he is the reason why you go on. You are a someone special in life and you don't need a guy to make you happy. You have to be ecstatic at where you are without him. In order to love anyone you have to love yourself and be independent! Find someone else that will treat you right, because you deserve it, not because you have to. Find someone that will treat you right, and like the girl that you are. Smart, capable, and most of all INDEPENDENT! Good luck!
2006-11-15 04:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it is bothering you and you can't get over it, honey, as painful as it is there is nothing to do but leave him. I don't know if i could bring myself to leave my boyfriend if he did something like that to me, but I know that that is the only way that I could ever get over it. They say "once a cheater always a cheater" and it really is true.. You now know that he's thinking about doing other girls and that his love for you only didn't stop him from doing another girl. Sweetheart i'm sorry but the only way to make the pain and thoughts go away is to leave him...
2006-11-15 04:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Christine4tw 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If hes changing then give him a chance. He may have just needed to see what life was like with another chick one more time. Just relax everything will be ok!
2006-11-15 04:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by lilbitt_637 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you truly believe that he's being sincere about his apology, then you need to forgive him. That does NOT mean you're going to forget what he did. In time, you'll learn to trust him again unless he shows you that he's not trustworthy.
I'll say give him another chance, but take it slowly.
2006-11-15 04:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
without trust, you cannot have a good relationship.
If you cant trust someone you will drive yourself crazy thinking about what he is doing, who hes with, why hes not calling, etc..
Thats not good for you to go crazy and its not a healthy relationship, if you do more worrying/wondering than being happy, then leave him.
2006-11-15 04:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sound like he love u long time!
2006-11-15 04:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe it took almost losing you for him to realize that he really needs you. Maybe he really does realize that no other girl can compare to you or compare to what you do for him.
2006-11-15 04:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hes not worth it if hes going to have sex with an other hoe then your going to be heartbroken agian
2006-11-15 04:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Luis 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
give him chance but iof you see him slippin again dump him.
2006-11-15 04:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋