Okay... so my boyfriend told me that he has been thinking about proposing to me, but he hasn't found a ring yet and says that he won't until he has one. I told he that the ring is not what makes a proposal special, it's the proposal itself and that he is willing to make that commitment, and the love of course! Anyway, my question is... what is the deal with not having a ring yet (like why would that stop him), and how soon do you think he will actually do it, considering the holidays are coming up and all?
2006-11-15 04:26:39 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also... since someone commented on it... I never brought up the subject of marriage, it was him. I was more concerned about our own personal dreams (what we want for our own lives, not our life together) than a dream we could share together.
2006-11-15 04:39:40 · update #1
Okay, it sounds like he wants to do it "right" the special moment, setting, etc. because in his mind he is only going to do this once in a lifetime. I wouldn't worry about why he won't do it until the ring. He already discussed it with you so just relax and hopefully it will become one of those special stories that is passed down to the children and grand kids... Good luck
2006-11-15 04:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hubby told me to tell you..........The ring is what makes the proposal more special whether he told you or not the point is he cant propose without the ring he may want to do it infront of family on the holidays and its going to look a little silly getting on one knee saying will you marry me and have no ring and on top of that wouldnt you rather be able to look at the ring and say yes and show the ring off, therefor if you have no ring you tell your friends yea i am getting married he proposed and they say ohh let me see the ring and you say oh well he hasnt bought it yet you really have nothing to show, hes just being a typical guy he wants you to have the ring so you can show it off, and wearing that ring does make you feel alot more special than not wearing it and he just wants you to feel more special, Yea the ring doesnt show love but it shows the world someone has your heart. And i am more than sure you would like to be able to at least wear the ring, and yea i understand that the ring is not what makes the marriage or what makes the commiment but it shows that you have one. But to top it all of it just looks good on you and during the proposal so dont worry so much waite untill you get the ring you will feel twice as special than without the ring. GOOD LUCK and CONGRATS
2006-11-15 13:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an excuse to cover up a kind of - testing the waters question. He basically wanted to know what you would say if he proposed. You are absolutely right, the ring doesn't mean anything, it is the sentiment and the commitment that is important.
2006-11-15 12:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is
1) Stalling
or
2) The pressure that the American society puts on the male
gender to follow tradition in this way is equal to the pressure
put on women to look like the girls on magazine covers.
Therefore the other reason would be to conform to the
standards of 1) The size/cost of the ring must be good
enough that his wife to be will not be embarassed and
2) The way in which he proposes must be done in a
unique way.
2006-11-15 12:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by ericnbeth2003 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient, the ring is a big part of it. What do you think we would get down on one knee and ask you to marry us and say, Oh by the way I didn't think enough about our engagement to get you a ring. Wait on the ring, you know a lot of guys propose on Christmas Day.
2006-11-15 12:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I proposed to my ex wife with a ring aout of a gumball machine. She thought that was better than the real thing. Little things make all the difference.
2006-11-15 12:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Saint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll do it when he's ready. It's not hard to find a ring, there are so many beautiful ones!!! The holidays make it a good chance that he will do it soon!
2006-11-15 12:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being completely honest here. my guess is that not long ago you must have pressured him to talk about marriage. now to stall you, he's come up with this whole ring story. I don't think he has any real intention to marry you...but he'll keep reaping the benefits either way, right?
2006-11-15 12:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by El Burro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let nature take its course. If he intends to do it, he'll choose when it's right. One motto I've always had in life was "Expect nothing and be surprised by everything."
2006-11-15 12:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by overmind78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have kept his mouth shut until he actually had the ring.
2006-11-15 12:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋