This question is for all my bi or lesbian ladies. My girlfriend & I have been dating for about 7 1/2 months now, & everything was fine. She would take me shopping, tell me every minute on the minute that she loves me & that I'm her "Aphrodite", & she would sit down & just talk to me about anything, anything at all that was bugging her. But suddenly she started to change. She got distant from me, doesn't express how she feels to me, & she doesn't even tell that she loves me anymore. I've asked if there's someone else, but she told me there wasn't. I've asked her is she still attracted to me, & she says that she still is. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't get her to talk to me about how she feels, & it tears me apart at night. Please, someone help me in my time of need.
2006-11-15 04:14:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe you just need to back off for a while. Sometimes things change - sometimes for the good, sometimes for the bad. But I think you need to take a step back and figure this out.
2006-11-15 04:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bean counter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are easiest to read. We express with our body's and eyes. If you said that you two were close and now she is distant, there is something going on. It might not be another woman. It might be deeper than that.
Ask yourself if there has been any big changes in her jobs, school maybe someone close to her passed last year at this time...... Just look deeper than the surface of what going on that you can see.
But trust your feelings, If you feel that she is not happy with you and doesn't show you any interest, than you have a reason to feel that way.
I wish you luck!
2006-11-15 05:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by sweet candy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why but things happen over a period of time.Me and my g/f of 4 years were once the happiest 2 people on the face of the earth,now we never show each other any affection,she is confussed as to what she wants in life now and i am trying to be patient with her and give her time to sort out things on her own>I really fell inlove with her and i still love her so much-but her kids hate the fact that she is with me-so it puts stress on us.I tell myself sometimes to walk away-but i can't seem to make myself do that.I thought she was my soul mate-but i guess not-anyway what i am saying things aren't always the same.she may even be feeling confused herself-just give her some time and maybe she will finally come talk to you-But it may not be anything wrong-just your mind playing tricks on you.Good luck!
2006-11-15 04:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at her face, her eyes, the way she acts. It could be that she's naturally not very demonstrative, and she was trying to impress you during the early phase of your relationship.
You can also just tell her that you're getting bothered, because she used to be so much more vocal and you loved that, a lot. Tell her honestly you can't help but worry, because she's not giving you much to go on. I've found, with my wife, it helps to have these types of talks on a long car ride, because nobody can get out and you don't have to look at each other.
I hope she opens up to you soon.
2006-11-15 04:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some are telling you to ask and others are telling you to back off of her. I'm not one to back off of something. It's maddening to me to be left hanging in the dark not knowing which way things are heading so I'm the type to have to get things resolved as soon as possible. My advice would be to keep after her but only if she's not getting annoyed at your questions. I think the key is presentation. Don't get all up in her face and demand but try to get things to where she's in a more vulnerable position to talk. Maybe after dinner when she's more relaxed and open to talking. Go home and curl up on the couch, turn off the TV, and just talk. Don't get in her lap, don't hang all over her....just talk.
2006-11-15 04:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would think the same, that there is someone else. It could be that there isn't. But I have been in this situation. I gave her space and eventually she came to me and told me what was wrong. If you ask her what is wrong and she won't tell you, there isn't much you can do about that. I am sure it is frustrating but I know that if you keep asking her what is wrong eventually she WILL get mad at you. Try giving her space, tell her if there is something wrong she can tell you but in the meantime go do something on your own, see if she opens up.
2006-11-15 04:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by U2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could she be having a bout of depression? Like is she SAD? Because people who have Seasonal Affective Disorder pretty much get depressed during fall to winter.
If not, there is something else bothering her. Just be there for her and keep spending time with her. Have her friends spend time with her and eventually she might feel better or comfortable enough to say what is bothering her.
2006-11-15 04:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the sex of the couple matters, this is a problem with hetero couple too. The relationship is out of the "honeymoon" period and it can get humdrum! Try to spice it up a little.
It could also be that she has changed her mind about the relationship, but only time will tell on that! Good luck :D
2006-11-15 04:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by huggz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 23:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask!!!! Whenever you need an answer ASK!! its not always the sexy choice, but its the one that will get results.
2006-11-15 04:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋