2006-11-15 04:00:30 · 15 answers · asked by Reality-blver 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Learn to accept and love him as he is, not try and bend him to be what you want. Two choices, acceptance or risk losing him forever.
2006-11-15 04:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him the same thing my mother told me, when I first came out as a lesbian (I am now female to male transsexual, but thought lesbian was the right word at the time) She said:
I may not always understand or approve of everything you do, but then again, that's what makes me a parent. You're still my (daughter at the time) and I love you. I will always love you, it's written in my parent contract, lol.(My mom had a great sense of humor) I'd rather have a gay daughter (or son) than no daughter (or son) at all. If I disown you, I risk losing my child, and I dont want that. I do want you to know though that I'm concerned for you that it may be harder for you to find the love of your life, but when you do, I know you will be truly happy because you are who you want to be, and for that, I support you.
My mom has since passed away :( She only received a 6th grade education, but she's one of the wisest women I've ever known in my life.
2006-11-15 12:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him and it's okay. your child is your child no matter what and you should love them as such. Trying to change him will only make him resent you and feel unconfortable. If he is gay, he is gay. It's okay. Let him know that you're there for him, and you don't care if he's gay. Just accept it, and accept him. And keep in mind how hard it is to be gay in this unforgiving society. If his own parent can't accept him, who will? you have to be supportive.
2006-11-15 12:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ophelia 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's still the same boy you've loved and raised since he was a baby. Just listen to him, hear what he has to say. Be open minded, try to understand. Know that it's not your fault he's gay, that we are born that way and that it isn't a choice. Continue to love him and support him. Let him know you're there for him, and that you're still proud of him.
2006-11-15 12:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Laugh and ask him if he already has a boyfriend.
BTW I have a son and 3 grandsons. Ironically, this came up with my oldest grandson, who at 13, has announced his gayness to all of us. I laugh because I was around the same age when I told my parents the same thing, and they still love me just as I love my kid and his kids.
2006-11-15 12:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'd do what my parents did in exactly that situation: say it's OK and they love and support me and want me to be happy.
Anyone human would do the same.
2006-11-15 14:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love him regardless....He is a human with feelings just like anyone else.
2006-11-15 12:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by brock 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Love him just the same...ask when he's bringing his boyfriend over for dinner!
2006-11-15 12:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by shawns 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Love him!!!! Plain and simple!!!!! He is still your son, regardless of his sexual preference
2006-11-15 12:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by your_mija_69 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
embrace it.. why fight something you have no control over. like puffy said, if you dont accept him, you may lose him... and no parent wants that
2006-11-15 12:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly.2113 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋