What will a verbally/emotionally abused child be like as an adult?

Question

This is for my Psych class....some people in the class say the child will grow into an angry, distrustful adult, others say they will be in an emotionally abusive marriage, a few even said they try to please everyone to win them over and get emotional support from others that they did not get from their parents. They may lash out at someone who not in a postion to answer back, such as a waitress in a restaurant. They may also become sexually promiscous(males and females), or any combintion of these things over their lifetime. I am not referring to physical abuse at all.

Answer 1

The choice is in the hands of the abused. It's obvious verbally abused people are faced with challenges to overcome, yet their outcome is up to them by the choices they make.

Group A will waller in self pity using their beginning as an excuse for bad future behavior giving negative results, possibly repeating the same behavior, lashing out in activity unbecoming as mentioned in your explanation.

Group B chooses to rise above their bad beginning to become positive influences resulting in greatness that ultimately results in positive influences to themselves and people around them.

Starting out bad will only determine a beginning. The end result can be blamed on us whether great or bad.

Example, Joyce Meyer was sexually and verbally abused, very low self esteem. After many years of unsucessful choices she made a final decision to choose wisely. Success for her and others is the result of her wise choice.

I too am an example of wise choices leading to a spiritually prosperous road to success.

Answer 2

Emotional abuse is different from physical abuse in how it affects the person being abused. A child who is verbally abused by a parent will usually feel as though they are to blame for everything. They may become withdrawn or they may lash out at others. The direction they will go in and how their behavior alters depends on the child's own nature. This will also determine (to a large extent) the direction their behavior will follow as adults. They may, in turn, become emotionally abusive to their own children. They may choose not to have children. They may try to avoid relationships for fear of being abused again, or for fear that they will become abusers. They may not feel "worthy" of love and will seek abusive types to form relationships with. Some may seek help to come to terms with having been an abused child, and will be more concious of their actions and thus break the cycle of abuse. Abuse in any form will leave lasting damage. How well a person can cope with it and their acceptance of what happened to them will also determine the type of adult they will become.

Answer 3

Everyone will handle it differently I'm sure. My son was emotionally abused by his Dad until I caught on, I took him to counseling for years and he is an adult now but still suffers all kinds of issues. It's hard to admit but he is a narcissist, he lies about almost everything, is very promiscuous even though he married, goes through money like water, will not take responsibility for his actions and is now emotionally abusing his wife. Although he doesn't think he is. He is on his second marriage. He told both wives "no children" and both decided to have them anyway. He does not pay child support on the oldest one and she wants nothing to do with him because of the emotional abuse she suffered and watched her Mom and grandparents(her parents) go through. Things are to go his way or no way at all. He uses people up and then throws them away.

Answer 4

Everyone handles their childhood abuse differently. To assume that they would become abusive themselves may be textbook, but its also an unfair inaccuracy. It is assumed that they grow up angry and abuse as they had been abused. I, for one, took the abuse I received as a child and learned from it. I became an understanding, caring, attentive woman and mother. My worst trait? Probably that I get angry at intolerable people. But then again, doesnt everybody?

I will add though, that I did take sexual attention as a sign of caring or love. I believe that stems from the sexual abuse I received from another person other than the one who emotionally abused me.

Answer 5

Or they will be perfectly fine, especially without labels by shrinks trying to classify everyone into somekind of mental illness that needs drugs and therapy. Fact is, everyone will encounter situations in life that form and change them for better or worse. It's only those people that have trouble letting "it" go and moving on, that need some help. It's all scientific fact that the brain learns "fight or flight" responses after certain situations. They are not all bad and are geared towards self survival.

Answer 6

I hate confrontation and am the first one to cave in when arguing. The sound of people arguing makes me uneasy and want to leave the house so I don't have to hear it anymore. I tend to do what I am told even when I am against it. I am beaten mentally and my spouse takes full advantage of it. My mother denies it. I't sucks being me.

see what your teacher has to say about that. there are probably more symptoms I forgot to put here but I'm sure they apply.

oh yeah. when anyone pays me a compliment i think they are either crazy, lieing or after something. it can never be true.

Answer 7

Really cruel and angry with some serious emotional issues, I know a guy whose mother was like that and he joined a gang, went to jail, he trusts no one, he hates women (becuz mom was the villian) he is into substance abuse, and you know I have known him 8 years and love him but I used to date him then I hated him and finally I realize it is becuz of what happened to him and now I feel sorry for him he has let life pass him with some great oppurtunities and relationships but his hurt is so deep he'll never get on track w/o professional help and he won't admit that he needs that

Answer 8

I think they would probably suffer from very low self-esteem and lack confidence, making them grateful for any kind of attention they can get almost to the point of being clingy. They may be nervous and suffer from anxiety/panic or depression (which could be the anger they feel from the abuser turned inwards).They may fear confrontation/arguments and anything that reminds them of the bad times.

Answer 9

Nowhere close to a good person thats for sure, or in the rarest case ,in case he has friends or other people he is jolly with he'll understand his bad luck and turn out to be extremely mature and strong person. It depends on many other things than just abusive parents.However bad experiences may result in shaping up a bad person.

Answer 10

It feels like they have been only very impatient with you. Im sorry you had to pass via this, only undergo in recommendations youre a definite man or woman and u need to be taken care of like a man or woman.