Ever since my boyfriend found out I was pregnant, he wanted me to terminate, but he accepted, that I wasn't. About three days ago, we got into an argument, like always do , about dumb stuff, and he told me to go back to my mom's house, so I did. I haven't heard from him, he hasn't called me, not even to see how I'm doing, not even his mom, who I have support from , has called me. I think were really through this time? I need advice to stay strong.
2006-11-15 03:54:16 · 16 answers · asked by Busy Bee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you want this baby then don't worry about any one else.If he didn't want the baby anyway what is the likely hood that he will be around for you or the baby in the future? Nil.So i think your better off without him.You do whats best for you and sod every one else.Good luck you will be fine.
2006-11-15 04:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by plumbob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have a situation don't you?
So sorry that this is happening to you.
I would say get your emotional support from your friends and family... Let him cool off and maybe (if he's able) reflect upon your whole situation. He may come to his senses. (Maybe other people are telling him stuff that's filling his head with garbage)
If he does, and you think he's worth it, the two of you really need to seek some relationship help, especially with the way you both communicate. Maybe a minister (guessing their free) or a trusted intelligent mutual friend who can mediate and really listen to you both. Sign up for professional help would be best.
If he doesn't come to his senses you know what a jerk he is already and he'll have no redeeming quality.... make sure child support is discussed.
Just know that the man who will love you and your child is out there... it just may take some time to find him... just be patient.
Good luck and have a healthy pregnancy and baby!
2006-11-15 04:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey Look....... Its tough love time.... Maybe this baby is causing you more heart ache now than you need. Plus you are loosing your boyfriend. You said ever since he found out you are pregnant you two always argue. Well maybe because hes not ready to be a father. You cant change a man by making him a "dad". Woman cant make men put down the damn toilet seat!!
Anyways.... The bottom line is this: You can either be with your boyfriend and have a baby in the future when you two can plan this type of thing........ or you can raise this baby on your own and hope for the best.
Good Luck Sweetie!
2006-11-15 04:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get used to rasing this baby on your own if your dead set agianst adoption you say you boyfriend excepted that you were going to keep the baby but obviously he hasnt. hes probably confused and scared but you to need to be adults you need to talk rationaly you dont have to be couple to raise a child toghter and if he deciedes in the end to be a dead beat then you will be both mother and father to your baby you will make sure he is paying child support and that he is not in and out of your life it sounds like your getting great support from your family so just be strong and concentrate on your health and the joy that a baby brings you dont need him and fighting with him is only going to make things worse. your relationship may very well be over but dont give up on him as a dad yet give him some time he may come around.
2006-11-15 04:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by heather d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have had a lucky escape. Be grateful that your mom is there for you. Don't go chasing that guy. If he's not man enough to be happy for your future together, then he's not man enough to be a father. you need to concentrate on taking care of yourself for your child's sake. It's obvious he's not interested; he first reaction was to tell you to terminate? you are well rid of him! you will meet a man some day who is deserving of your lovely nature, until then, believe in your own strength, you can make it alone. you can give your baby a life free from the stresses of a bad relationship. I have been in your place, i know. My only regret is that I din't dump the waster sooner. I reared my beautiful son alone, and I know i made the right choice. Good luck to you, you can do it!
2006-11-15 04:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to concentrate on your baby, this guy sounds like he dont love you because if he did he would worry about you. The most important thing in youre life right now is that beautiful baby growing inside of you. Give it love as of now. You are a strong women, Be strong for youre baby. Good Luck and take care.
2006-11-15 04:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best advice I can give you is to saty away from that a$$ hole....if he kicked you out and then never calls I guess the message it's pretty clear here: he's no good or worth any of your worries. You now have a baby inside you that needs to have the best care,and that means that you don't worry or stress about anything.This is the most important stage because this early the chances of having a miscarriage are high. So he left you, GOOD for you!! You don't need him...you can do it...and make that bastard pay for child support..
2006-11-15 03:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel I am in the same situation exact I am still with him and he feels the need to screw around with other women the best advise I can give you is to stay strong know your boundaries and set them. You are pregnant not a disease and you need to try to stay in the right state of mind for yourself and this baby stress is not a good thing, If he wants to go let him go know that you will get through this and remember what you are worth never settle. your focus needs to be today and today you must do for you and your unborn baby do not future trip only today and everyday as it comes.
2006-11-15 05:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by chrissylynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should concentrate more on your baby growing inside you..Stop worrying if that piece of **** is going to call you or not..Worry more about yourself and the baby..That only showed show much he really cared about you..If to begin with he told you to terminate then that showed he is not responsible and isn't ready you don't need that type of guy in the end you will realize it was for the best that he told you to leave...Good Luck with your baby give it all the love you can give..Having a baby is the best gift god can give you...
2006-11-15 04:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by Short13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just stressed out over the new addition, and needs some time to himself to deal with it. A baby is a huge step - for you and him - and it's even worse if it's completely unexpected.
I don't think he'll abandon you and the baby, but if he does, there's not much you can do other than sue for child support. For now, I'd call and act supportive for him, and try not to be too overbearing.
2006-11-15 04:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sailor Jupiter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋