Why is my husband so stupid?

Question

I am 6.5 months pregnant and my husband is about as dumb as rocks. Whenever his co workers ask him how im doing he will tell them stupid things like pregnancy has made my skin ashy because im a black woman. Why does he put me out there like im a reject? And then when I get upset, he cant seem to understand WHY im mad.

Answer 1

Honey rethrase the question.... Why are men stupid?
It's not just your husband, all men are idiots!!

Answer 2

Was he always this stupid or is he getting increasingly stupid as the pregnancy progresses? Maybe you should give him the answers before he heads out so he doesn't have to make up some dumb answer himself.
It could be you are getting less tolerant too. Getting all deformed will do that to a woman - the stuff we put up w/ before doesn't go by unnoticed anymore.

Use his ignorance to your advantage. Tell him the Dr. said you can't vaccuum anymore. Next week you can't cook. Tell him you need back rubs and foot rubs and whatever it is you want - just cause the Dr. said.

Answer 3

He could actually just think that he's telling his friends something that is no big deal and not realize that it is to you. Men don't realize when they do things that could be insensitive.

This is why I always give examples when I talk to my husband, kids, or anyone else. Sit him down and tell him that it's embarrassing to you for him to go and tell his co-workers that you're ashy, or anything else. Tell him that with the pregnancy alone, you're feeling self-conscious and your self-esteem is not as good as it used to be. Then give him an example of something he did that was embarrassing to him such as "remember that one time when you couldn't get an erection" or "remember that time when you climaxed only after a couple of seconds" then tell him "how would you like it if my friend and/or co-workers asked me how you were doing and I said fine but he couldn't get it up last night" or "he's fine but didn't satisfy me at all because he climaxed way to quickly" and ask him how would he feel.

I bet you after you say that, he'll think twice before saying anything insensitive and/or private so anyone. Good luck!

Answer 4

You need to really sit down and talk to him. Tell him he's hurting your feelings while you struggle with pregnancy which is not easy as it is. Explain that you need love, respect, protection and understanding even more than you did before. After all, you're carrying his baby, too, not only yours and he's in it too.
In the end, don't worry, men can be really insensitive sometimes, it's not that he wants to hurt you or anything, he probably thinks that what he says is funny, that's all.

Answer 5

Well he has no idea how you feel and no matter how much you try and explain hes never going to get it because hes not for one you and hes not a girl!
guys are diffrent they don't think like a girl does their feelings and emotions are way diffrent and we just have to deal with it without bittching about it all the time.
just ingore his stupid comments or just tell him how you feel but just know he'll never understand 100% clearly

Answer 6

Although it is within the realm of possibilities that you are hyper-sensitive, he is merely being seincere and real. I think deep down he is eliciting understanding about your condition from his friends as well as in a round about way letting them know that this is a potential condition that they (wife and husband) when they are pregnant. The alternative would be to nicely ask him to stop being so detailed.

Answer 7

CAUSE HES A MAN lol, he doesnt think before he talks and when he does say things like that and you get upset he doesnt understand because to him they seem like normal things to tell someone. He doesnt realize that those arent something he needs to share with his co workers. He just doesnt get it. Tell him to stop telling people things that are unimportant. Tell him what to say next time. Tell him when someone asks how im doing tell them im doing good and well you know whatever you want them to know. Try to direct him a little bit. Maybe hes just not big into conversations and says things off the top of his head lol. GOODLUCK

Answer 8

Because he is an insensitive brute and men like that, think it's funny to belittle a woman, you see they feel threatened by women and our ability to give birth and do so many other things that they can't. It's an insecurity and they cannot help it.

Answer 9

maybe you could get him some books to read about pregnancy? Or he just really don't know what is what .
Try tio include him when you go to the doctor for check up etc . and tell him to ask you if he don't understand what is going on !

Good luck and congrats on the Baby to come

Answer 10

Men are all that way, my husband does similar things to me, it is unitetional insted of just saying she's fine they feel they need to add details. Just give him a script for what to say when he is asked about it.

Answer 11

Men, in general, just don't get it! Don't let him con you into thinking that it is just your hormones (my man tried that). Sounds like he is oblivious to your feelings. Maybe you should start telling his buddies that pregnancy has made your husband into more of an idiot than usual.LOL...Anyways, Good Luck!