sHE HAS NEVER HAD A PROBLEM WHEN I DROP HER OFF AT DAY CARE HE HAS BEEN THERE FOR 4 YRS AND HE CRIES NOW FOR THE LAST 3-4 MONTHS
2006-11-15 03:18:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If there has been a change in your son's behavior regarding his being left at day care, ask him why he doesn't want to go. Look at what is going on in that day care center; if he was happy with it before, there may be a good reason why he doesn't want to be left there now.
2006-11-15 03:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by silver2sea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our son had it when he was in first grade, and then this year when he is in fourth grade....here is what we know.
Just from experience and the school's psychologist,
first of all....did anything happen that has changed your surroundings, has anyone left or has there been any traumatic experience?
This requires more of a chat room discussion/email but I will try to get this easy to understand...we had moved this last year and he went through a big change, so we kind of had a jump start on finding out what the problem was this last time. In first grade we, didn't have a clue. He was afraid of dark clouds, the rain, heavy winds etc. also...he had a friend that had both of his parents sent off to this war we're in in Iraq. His mom is a nurse and his dad was a pilot, my wife is a nurse and I work for the airlines, so he associated the two and became scared of losing us to the war.
Now I say this in a few sentences, but it took lots of research on our part, looking into every aspect of his life from who he was in contact with to what was on TV, to what the school was reading him...etc. It felt endless, but it also taught us communciation skills that have become part of our everyday lives. We talk about everything now. So, in retrospect, this can be a building thing for your future, not so much a bad thing.
Believe me, it wasn't all fruits and berries, I don't mean to sugar coat this, it sucked BIG TIME to try and figure it all out, but dig your heels in start peeling away the things that surround your child and fix whatever it is, you will be able to communicate better and they will know that they can come to you for anything...
2006-11-15 03:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by dougelandin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would always be untrusting if my child started crying after seeming happy all this time. My main concern would be is someone hurting my child in the daycare. Seek out counseling for your child to find out what has been going on. It may just be seperation anxiety but you need to find out for sure. At this age for a child they may not be able to express verbally what is going on where a therapist could help by the childs actions.
2006-11-15 03:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of daycare? Private? Get your child a check up to make sure there is no abuse or illness. Keep reassuring her that you will be back soon. Spend a little extra special time with her doing her favorite things when you are together. Chit chat about anything and everything on the drive to and from daycare.Kids really enjoy the extra "attention".
2006-11-15 03:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why is your child so attached to you? Do things to help the child get used to you not being around. It may be also be that it will go away maybe it's just a stage. Continue with your activites and don't change anything on account of the child. Don't let it concern you too much.
Good luck
2006-11-15 03:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they got somebody new there and he is being teased, picked on, or hurt in some way. It could be a new child or even a teacher. You need to find out if there have been any changes lately.
At this age, she could talk. Ask her gently why she is so unhappy when you take her. Ask her 15 different ways if you have to, none of them accusing or in an angry tone.
2006-11-15 03:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a picture of you and a watch tell her
mama will come back when this big hand reaches ( )
and make sure they are some sort of color
because my mom did that to me when i was little
and i confused the second hand and was excited that time was going sooooo fast and when the hand reached the ten i ran to the window and mommy wasnt there i wanted to cry.
2006-11-15 03:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine did that as well. No worries, this too shall pass.
Now walk away and come back in 5 -10 minutes and notice nothing is wrong at all. Ask the teacher, she will valadate it for you.
Its all for you Mommy! He is momma's boy and showing it.
Mine too. LIttle stinker!
2006-11-15 03:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say is to just let them go on with their lives nad get them into counseling if they start crying for their dad
2006-11-15 03:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you need to check into where your child is staying there may be something going on as to why he doesn't want to go
2006-11-15 03:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋