How do I stop loving my husband too much?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children. He is in the military and always deploys to iraq and every where else. My husband is my world my everything my life my salvation. Our children and my husband are the center of my heart. I feel I am a good wife and mother because I have never lied to him I tell him everything I have never cheated on him though he has cheated on me. I am always there for him when ever he needs me. I worry about him and I love him very deeply but he pushes me away. He say's that my love for him is sick because I love him too much. How can true love for my husband be too much for him. He act's like we are together 24/7. We are not. When we are at home he makes me feel like a queen but when we are in public and if I try to show any affection at all he pushes me away and makes me out to be a psycho crazy person, then when we get home oh go figure he is sorry. All I do is cry I am so hurt but still love him the same.WHY? i'm lost

Answer 1

I am a business man and travel a lot. I love my wife and our 2 kids with all my heart. The problem is that when you are away you get used to be alone. When i come home i feel very happy but at the same time it takes me about 1 or 2 days to get used to all the yelling, playing, running of the kids. The same with the affection my wife gives to me. I do not know is this is OK but happens to me.
Hope i give you some inside. Best wishes!!

PS Best to do: Give him space the first day, and everything will be fine.

Answer 2

You are supposed to love him that much and he's to love you as mauch. You aren't the problem. You think u love him more but it's just that u aren't secure with his feelings 4 u and I sdon't blame u, he cheated. You need to realize that there is someone more important than him, your children, and everyone else. You! When you become secure and happy with yourself, u will find that people love u more. People love confidence, sometimes it makes them secure knowing that u are. Your husband isn't even secure with himself. Seek God, believe it or not, it works. I was u once. Now, I am me. My husband (and evry other guy we know) adores me. I'm hot, not in a big bust,dark tan, pornstar way. I have flaws, to my man, it makes me cute when I make mistakes. You need to become important 2 u. What if something happened to your husband, would u break down completely? If you were secure with yourself and life , you would mourn for a while but get into gear and kick butt in life. You know, pick up where you left off. Do something for you , not him. You are already a great wife, You are his best friend. Now, be your own best friend because he may never be yours. That doesn't mean your marriage is doomed. Just trust me, Seek God, Love yourself, Your husband, and your children and then He'll come around, you'll be pushing him away! TRUST ME! I.M .me if u need!

Answer 3

Calm down for starters, your husband is in a different world, he is military trained....he is trained to kill the enemy and show no love.
Your husband is taking u for granted, knowin u will always be there for him.
Men are self servin jerks when they want to be.
It is best to not let your husband get so much attention.
Start a hobby or read more, stop thinkin of him so much
Prayer to God is your key.
U need to reexamine your relationship with your hubby.
If he pushes u away in public, then he is ashame of u which
is not good at all.
The military may have made your hubby the true psycho crazy person.
Its best to just be quiet and follow your instincts.

Answer 4

Well maybe its the normal EGO trip for men.. 99.9% of men cant see what they have until its gone.. and half the time they dont give a ****.. You cant love anyone TOO much.. You can get on their damn nerves, yea... that just being aggrivating.. You may have insecurity issues. So its ok to love, but dont crowd, or try not to bug the hell out of him.. I have a tendency to do that with my girlfriend...so I know what you mean... but to some it may push him away... try asking him, fo 1 or 2 days out of the week, you want to baby him, love him the way you want... then the rest., just treat him as a buddy or leave him alone.. then he will start treating you like that if he is still in love with you..

Answer 5

Obsessive Love Disorder

Answer 6

Some men have a hard time showing their love in public . Just be the way you are and don't try to change . It is just really hard cuz hes not there with you .Be happy and don't worry too much .

Answer 7

keep loving him and let him ignore u like this. u cant stop urself when u love him with such intencity.u cant live without him.but try to forget what is negative about him be happy about the positive things
of ur family life.he will not change .be happy and engage urself with ur children or try music or something u like at times when u feel hurt.try this dear because i also had the similar circumstances but i didnt even had children and my inlaws were also a problemfor me. so please be positive for urself for ur health and ur well being.god bless u.

Answer 8

you're in love with the man! why would you want to love him any less? sounds like you just miss him a lot and you need him in your life which is normal for you to feel this way. Since he's gone most of the time- take lots of pictures withy our kids for memories of the little things he's missing so when he comes back he can have something to look at

Answer 9

He probvably feels uncomfortable with public displays of affection. Also, don't tell him you love him too much. Obviously say it once in a while, but not constantly every day.

Answer 10

there is no such thing as loving some one 2 much.you can love a person for all the wrong reasons ,love a person in the wrong way but never 2 much.