My friend Ericia is only 16 years old and she is about to get married to a 28yr old man and i've tried to tell her that it's not gonna work ....What else should I do?
2006-11-15 03:12:22 · 20 answers · asked by sweetmama142003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be her friend and be happy for her. She's made her decision and even though you're RIGHT, she's already made up her mind. Just love her, be excited for her, try to help her feel like the "blushing bride" and make a big fuss over her and then quietly prepare yourself for the day that you'll need to be her rock of support when it all falls through. This is a life lesson she's destined to learn herself and you can be a good friend by loving and supporting her regardless. That's what a good friend-for-life does.
2006-11-15 03:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can possibly work. In the olden days most women got married young even younger than 16. My sister in law and her husband were married when she was 15 and they have been married 34 years. Your best bet is to be supportive no matter how it turns out. Just be a friend.
2006-11-15 11:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your friends' 28 year old man really loves her then he would wait until she is out of school and mature enough to make the decision to get married. your friend may lack self esteem or not have a strong relationship with her family. that would make her vulnerable to someone treating her like a queen. regardless of what you say to her, she will probably do what he wants her to, because he obviously has a huge influence over her. keep the lines of communication open with her and hopefully all will be well.
2006-11-15 11:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by sickofmakinthemgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything else. It's her life you have to let her live it. Just be there for her and give her your support. The thing is you don't want to be the bad guy here, and if you keep going on to her about it, she will turn against you. So go to the wedding have a nice time, but if it does go wrong, don't say I told you so just be the good friend that you are and look out for her
2006-11-15 11:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do that will change her mind. If you are really close to her though just be there for her and let her know you care, because that marriage is not going to even last a year.
2006-11-15 11:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by eh_chicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do .It may last it may not . It isn't your problem really .I think if her parents who will have to sing for her to get married are the ones to worry about it .I got married at 17 and it lasted 18 yrs . so who's to say it won't last .Hopefully she doesn't have kids till she is alot older .
2006-11-15 11:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that you can do but wait for a few years...she's going to need you when she has 3 kids and realizes that she made the biggest mistake in her life.
2006-11-15 11:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your situation to deal with. She is going to do what she wants to do (although I don't believe she can get married at 16).
2006-11-15 11:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be her friend and be happy for her. Don't be negative about her marriage as this will put her against you. Who knows it might work and surprise you. On the other hand if it doesn't work out , at least she will still be your friend.
2006-11-15 11:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Dianne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just continue being her friend..you are right this is very unlikley to last and then she will need good friends..but dont say i told you so to her when it does hit the skids. the more you tell her not to,the more she will want to do it and prove everyone wrong..so id let her make her own mistakes.
2006-11-15 11:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋