why is it that most divorces are initiated by women? what is it about their nature that makes them want to?

Question

throw in the towel quicker? i have always thought of women as being fed so much c r a p about fairy tales as children and this fantasy of prince charming that they are quick to give up if it is not that.
also, i always thought women were better at going warm to cold. i always was amazed at when a woman breaks up with you they become this sheet of ice. was always sort of disenchanting and made me more jaded to the whole thing.
what are other peoples opinions on this and do you agree or disagree with my ideas?

Answer 1

You know, it takes two to make a marriage work.

You need to remember that before pointing a finger at the female gender.

Answer 2

I think all women want the fairy tale but most women that are older know that this is only fantasy. And probably if they met a guy who acted like "Don Juan" they'd think something was definitely wrong with him. In the olden days women were made to keep house, do laundry on a washboard, cook bread from scratch, and still help out in the fields planting grain. Society has changed and women have became people too. We don't have to settle in a relationship where our needs are not being met. We can move on and support ourselves. We are individuals.

Answer 3

I believe that women probably take more of initiative than men, at times. There are times that either side just does not want to give up.
We live in a society that people just give up and move on to the next very easily. These days people want instant gratification, no hard work, or hard times, they want everything to be easy with little to no effort. Our society (mostly) have lost a sense of structure, morals, values, boundaries (adultery). What it means 'thru good & bad' stick to it, see it through till the end.
Life is short, we all want to make the best of it. If one would make better choices, think more about a decision, we would have less divorces.
In general people want more and more of want ever it is they have their eye set on. Woman want the fairytale, well some, others try. Some men, not all, find it very difficult to be failthfull, as do some women.
Lessons we learn thru out our life is suppose to 'teach' us. Some learn, some do not.

Best of Luck, there's always somone out here 'there' that is optimistic and not a pestimitic.

Answer 4

Well, I think women file more divorces for the following reasons...
1) They were cheated on.
2) The husband was rich or had the potential of becoming rich and therefore she wanted the money. (gold digger)
3) She was abused and finally decided to stand up for herself.
4) Went into a relationship with delusioned expectations. (maturity)
5) He became a deadbeat.

I'm sure there are other reasons. I feel like these are the most common. Some of the order may be wrong.

Answer 5

It's a two way street to make a marriage work women are not all alike when it comes to divorce. Some divorce because the husband is not treating them right, others want a quick way out instead of trying to work out problems, or they just want the money. There are guys out there that file for divorce for the same reasons, but it's more common that a woman would file for the divorce. I got one for you wanting to separate because you fell out of love, because the guy didn't show love. Even though he did, but was pushed away when he did show love or try to do something special and she doesn't want to and she put all the blame on the guy also on depression. You just can't live with them and you can't live without them.

Answer 6

Silly...This one is easy. Women are always searching for that fairy tale. Even tho they grow up and realize that it's just stories, it doesn't change the need for that 'perfect' relationship. Guys are lazy and go with the flow. So we aren't the ones to do the footwork to do the divorce. Guys will just run off and cheat before they dissolve what they have first.

Answer 7

Wow, a lot of bitterness.

It looks like a lot of the women are saying it's the mans fault. They cite men being insensitive and everything else.

That looks to me to be a lot of stereotyping and very little looking at their own behavior.

I'm a divorced man who did not cheat, did not beat, and it appears, I had a very different view of what marriage and love means than my now ex-wife.

She is the one who cheated.

She was the one who did not communicate in clear,direct messages.

I don't recall who the lady was above who wrote in depth about the whole Disney Princess thing, but I do believe that has a lot to do with the dissatisfaction of women in marriage. Many (not all) are looking for a fairytale, and are not willing to do the work.

I can't tell you how many times I asked my now ex-wife to answer the question, "What does your ideal, romantic marriage look like? Paint me a word picture please." Only to get back the answer, "If you loved me, you would know what to do."

Sorry, it doesn't work that way.

You see, to me, marriage is about being partners. It's not just sex, it's not just romance, it's about making a plan together, facing what life throws at you together, and knowing the other person is there for you.

Romance is a part of it, so is sex, so is understanding that sometimes you've gotta tell the other person exactly what you want. All the time, you have to decide on what you are going to work towards and then just do it.

The stats I've seen, and I studied marriage and divorce in great depth when I was going through my unwanted divorce indicate that women file approximately 2/3rds of all divorces. I've seen numbers that range from 60% to 75%, depending on the years studied.

So in nice round, easy to remember numbers, for every divorce a man files, two women file for divorce.

The most recent stats for infidelity are close to the same, and if you consider that men are not cheating with other men, but are probably cheating with women, the numbers of cheaters is probably fairly even.

Sure, not all the men are married who have affairs with married women. Conversely, not all the women are married who have affairs with married men. The bottom line is that if one or both parties in a relationship are married to another, both of them are cheating, regardless of their marital status.

So I contend that men and women cheat in even numbers. (Unless someone has stats showing that men are engaging in homosexual affairs at any significantly higher rate than women, I believe my view to be fairly solid and well supported.)

The bottom line is, folks divorce because they either don't feel safe in their marriage or don't believe they will get their needs met in their marriage.

This doesn't mean their feelings are grounded in truth, but I have to believe that folks consistently act in a fashion they believe will be benefical to them.

So, right or wrong, for every man who thinks divorce will be good for them, there are two women who also believe divorce will be good for them.

Answer 8

I feel the opposite.....most divorces is because the man would not take responsiblity or do the mens chores around the house.
U got alot to learn about women.
If women become this sheet of ice, then u let em.
Its all in your mind, not the womans.
I feel u are heartbroken over some woman and u need to move on.
Treat the next one with more kindness.

Answer 9

Very good Jeremy. You figured it out, it is the disney imagination that causes women to divorce. I would have to agree on that one, but I would also say that it is that imagery that makes women marry in the first place. I mean really, white gown, everyone staring at you...pretty pretty princess. So, you're right, but also, you haven't looked at it completely.
Women, when they shut you out, you are shut out because they don't want to hurt anymore. You can hurt them, by being nice, by being a gentleman, you can hurt them. So, they tune you out so they can get on with their lives. Women are more naturally attune to emotions, and have no problem getting wrapped up in them. You have to understand that this also means that they can be polarities all in the span of five minutes.
Interesting stuff...

Answer 10

I think the answer is that most women know a relationship is over before the men do. Somehow, we don't seem to get it. But the woman, knowing it's over, and probably having already found bf#2, files for divorce.

Answer 11

I agree with you but you have to also see the man usualy cheats and that initiates a dicorce. Being cheated on is enough to initiate a divorce quickly. I would not hesitate to dump someone in a second if cheated on, that would definatly break the fantasy I have of marriage and shatter all of my illusions. I hope this helps:)