Ex has primary custody but refuses to work. Therefore she is collecting government assistance. I pay child support as per the child support guidelines. I am wondering if any of that money is kept for my son or if it is taken by social assistance.
2006-11-15 02:59:37 · 20 answers · asked by missingonehalo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This does depend on your state, but...
In most states social services will take in to account how much your ex is receiving for child support and will deduct that amount from the services they give her.
So if she gets $400 a month from you, and she is entitled to $800 a month in benefits, they will only give her $400.
Her being on assistance does not effect your payments. You are still required to pay her the set amount, and social service's does not take your money (they just give her less then if she wasn't getting child support).
2006-11-15 03:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with my experience welfare gets the money for any medical expenses and if she gets money from welfare you pay that also. But the food stamps is just hers and your sons. And then if there is any money left from the child support then it is given to your EX for your son. But what I have noticed is that the kids don't really get the money. It is used for the power bill and the gas bill and so forth. You don't get a say in where it goes unless it is in the divorce decree. Hope this helps. If you have concerns then you should go to court and see about changing things if at all possible. Good Luck. We have had one hell of a time doing this since we have had to pay up 1300.00 a month in child support. Now we are down to 2 kids and paying 500.00 a month and one of the kids doesn't live with the mother, she lives by herself. But the mother still gets they child support. So your best bet is to get a lawyer that will make it right. Just be kind and try and work together. Good Luck. Best Wishes!
2006-11-15 03:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Curious33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will still be getting your money for your son. What happens on the social assistance side is that her social assistance will actually be less because they count that money as income and so she will be getting slightly less social assistance. In some cases, if the child support is being handled through an outside agency, they will give her both the assistance and the child support as one payment - but either way, yes the money goes to your son.
2006-11-15 03:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you are in because welfare guidelines are set by the state. But, i live in MIchigan and my husband pays child support for his 12 year old son and his mother lives on state aid.. the harsh reality is that your son does not receive any of the money that you pay for support. Your payments are used solely for the purpose of repaying the state back for the care they provide for your son. Fortunately, most states have laws that will force the mother to eventually work and contribute at least some of the support for the child. But she can also opt to return to school which you will pay for. After all is said and done about once a year they determine whether or not you have paid enough to cover all the expenses they have paid and if not you will be responsible.. Make sure that you NEVER miss a court date. They can raise on you in an instant. I wish you luck. The hardest system to be in is the friend of the court system. They are anti-men, anti-child. Women work there who were jilted by men and use this as their arena to castrate them. I feel for you.
2006-11-15 03:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each state is different. Depending on how much you pay, the state probably gets a percentage of the money but the rest goes to your ex. Depends on what kind of assistance she gets also. If she is getting food stamps and medicaid for example, then she probably gets all of the support that you pay. If she is getting a check from the state, then they probably reduce the child support by the amount that she receives from welfare.
2006-11-15 03:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing about this situation is that there is no law giving the payers any legal chance of knowing where the money is going to and no one can legally make your ex tell you, if she does not want to. And even during income tax time, she does not have to claim any of the money she received in child support, but by law, you are still taxed for it as your income. Not fair, but I have to say that I am a proud single father with sole custody of my two daughters. Not getting any child support, because my ex continues to quit her jobs, but the hell with it, my daughters are healthy and happy, money or not. Its her loss.
2006-11-15 03:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know exactly how it works now, or how it works in your state, but when I was a kid, I was in a similar situation. My mom was on welfare and my dad paid child support. The state would take the child support and give my mom a check and food stamps that would often total a lot more than the child support payment.
2006-11-15 03:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rules vary by state but usually the support payments go to the state since the state is supporting your children. Your ex may get a portion of the money you send as a "bonus" check.
2006-11-15 11:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband pays child support and in Missouri if they are on assistance and getting aid, food stamps, mc+, etc. the state gets the money for what they are giving her in assistance.
2006-11-15 03:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by djnp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In California, the recipient on welfare will receive what's called a "disregard", and the amount of that disregard is $50. The rest of your support payment is taken by the state.
2006-11-15 03:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋