Should I confront my neighbor?

Question

My wife has been talking to a male neighbor on her cell phone, she denies it...should I confront Him?

Answer 1

No. This is an honesty, trust and betrayal issue between you and your wife. The neighbor is only guilty if your wife enables him.

Answer 2

No, confront her, but since you have already done that, confronting the neighbor would do you no good. When relationships go bad, which you are thinking maybe your is, I never understood why people blame the other person instead of the one they are with. It's her fault, not necessarily his. It's easier to put the blame on the other person, but stick with your own problems, which is your wife. Most cell phone bills come with a list of phone numbers that have been called and a list of numbers of the incoming calls. Check your bills, and you should be able to figure it out if you want concrete proof. There is a difference between "talking" to someone and "doing" with someone, but I understand why it upsets you. If you are that concerned, perhaps you should spend more quality time with her and woe her back, maybe she's missing talking to you, or missing something you once had? Try dating her and spicing up your life, if I was her, it would work for me if I was trying to find a missing piece somewhere else! Good luck, hopefully you are just being paranoid, but do try spicing things up, it could be a win-win situation for both of you!

Answer 3

If she's talking to him on the cell phone then there should be a record of it. Get the cell phone bill with his # on it and confront your wife again. Its really her problem not the neighbors.

Answer 4

How do you know your wife is talking to the neighbor?

It seems you've got one of two possible problems here; 1) you're jealous and imagining a relationship that doesn't exist or, 2) your wife is talking to the neighbor on the telephone but lying to you about it. Either way, I'd leave the neighbor out of it and consult with a couples therapist to work on the real issues in your marriage.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Yes I think that if it bothers yu enough you should confront him, also to verify this, try getting her cell phone records. Did you know that you can legally put a tap on your phone? As long as one party knows its on there, IE You, theres nothing your wife or your neighbor can do about it. Private detectives are a good way to prove a spouse is cheating.

Answer 6

Nope, you need to "talk" to your wife. A healthy marriage should be built on love, respect and trust. "Communication" is a huge part of any relationship.

Try not "accusing" her when you talk to her, you're only going to make her "defensive". Maybe if you are able to speak with her in a civil tone, you can get to the bottoms of this.

If you think something is "up", it probably is. But the problem is with your "wife", not your "neighbor". Good luck.

Answer 7

uhh confront her phone bill buddy... if it says there, then she cant lie about it... if shes just talking to the wife dont be paranoid...

but make sure u have a bbq and invite the neighbors... see how they react... and if he has a wife... then talk to her and say, hey i noticed u and my wife are talking a lot lately... what have u girls been up to... and then hello if she ahsnt been talking to the wife u will surely figure it out.. and then make sure u throw the chick to the curb.. u dont need a liar wife

Answer 8

If you are 100% positive then you need to defintely call them out on it. Or if you really wanted to find out if they were screwing around together take a letter and invite your wife somewhere and sign his name and then to the same to him saying it's from your wife put it in the mail boxes and then go to that place at that time and see if they show. after you confront them. just put p.s. dont call i dont want to spoil the suprise

Answer 9

confront your wife again with a copy of the phone bill in your hand, and see what she has to say then

Answer 10

you should really check with your neighbor see what he says and maybe call him from your wifes cell phone see how he answers when he sees its her phone number. I don't know just don't do somthing you'll regret really. . . you should try to get to know the facts first.