she is so scaed to tell her b/f of 14 years this she knows that he wanted children do you thin he will leave her and look for somone who can please tell me what i should to help her
2006-11-15 02:53:49 · 15 answers · asked by loverboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she has to get the rest of tubes removed
2006-11-15 02:56:43 · update #1
well lover boy i think she has nothing to worry about they been together so long that he might have changed his mind tell her to tell him he does have the right to know this she could always go and get a another Doctor but then that wouldn't,t help just be her loving brother and help her thanks for asking me to answer this hope this helps you my friend
2006-11-15 03:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by dar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow after 14 years he would just get up and leave... gee .. that a little stiff don't you think . I think that after 14 years... He can accept the idea. Give him a little credit.. They are going to have to work it out. and what ever decision they make .. is what is going to happen. like maybe adopt or maybe just accept it . He probably has some inkling that something isnt working if they havent had a child yet... But if he did leave after that .. maybe this was a blessing. I say be supportive and be there but there isnt a magic speech you can give .. for her , she is going to have to come to terms and he will. Just tell her you love her and be there for her. there is not much more.. except have a baby for her.. and that a differnt post( lol ) good luck
2006-11-15 11:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has been with her boyfriend for 14 years, and he decides that because she can't have children he has to leave her, then he is in the Wrong.
But, I would not worry about that. He obviously loves her.
You can tell her you love her, that you'll be there for her. You can tell her that she can have a surrogate mother if she wants, or she can adopt. There are more options out there, and your sister will be able to have a child. They may not be from her womb, but she can love them as her own, and they will become hers.
There are closer ties than blood, you know.
Good luck :)
2006-11-15 10:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by willow22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww.....I can imagine what a devastating news that would be to a woman (especially one with child bearing in mind). It's a shame that with all the technology that we poses in this day and age that we don't have anything to deal with infertility.
I think that your sister shouldn't be scared. After all, it's not her fault. I am sure her b/f of 14 years will do his best to understand. The ball is in your sister's court now. Tell him? She must! then he has to decide.
After 14 years of investment in a relationship, I really think he would be understanding and help her go through this hard time, but then again, you never know how one will react.
As a caring sibling, you have to prepare your sister's mind for anything. You have to prepare her for the reality of what her b/f could say. Prepare her for the worst scenario but also remind her that she has a great b/f whom she's been with for the past 14 years.
2006-11-15 11:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by dajyde 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are other means of having children. Adoption for one. Another is if she has healthy eggs but just can't carry then there is the idea of a serogate mother.
If he loves her he will accept her for who she is and what she can't help about her body. He will help her get through it. Like I said, there are other ways to be parents.
2006-11-15 11:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he would leave her. 14 years is a long time. If he loves her, he'll stand by her. They can still have kids. The option to adopt is always out there.
2006-11-15 10:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany6322 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How awful.
She needs to tell him. But depending on what her problem is, its not always definitive that she cannot concieve. They told my sister in law she couldnt have any children and my brother and her now have 2 girls. Maybe she needs to seek a second opinion.
2006-11-15 10:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
while what stallions says is truth sometimes it isn't always the case. But back to your question, they have been together 14yrs without any children, if there is tru love involved, he will be there for her and give ehr the support she needs. It isn't him you should be worried about
2006-11-15 10:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE HAS BEEN WITH HER FOR 14 YEARS... It is unlikley he is just hangin out waiting for children. I would say he loves her. Tell her to tell him. They could always adopt.
2006-11-15 10:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her boyfriend would leave her because she can't have children, she should consider that good riddance to bad rubbish. She deserves -- everyone deserves -- to be loved for who they are, not for what someone wishes them to be. If she wants children, she should consider adoption. My daughter is adopted, and she is as precious to me as the child I had who died.
2006-11-15 10:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetchild Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋