My baby girls dad left us when I was 6 months pregnant (baby is now 7 months). I think I still love him but then I think I really hate him for leaving. Then again I just want to have a complete family. What's a good way to find out what I feel? .
2006-11-15 02:46:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When we found out i was pregnant. I told him how excited i was and that i always knew he would take care of us, but then he answered to all of it "keep dreaming". That broke my heart and soon after he was gone.
2006-11-15 02:59:03 · update #1
You are just hungry for that "perfect family". Unfortunately, you didn't choose the perfect man. He left you when you were pregnant. That's not a real man.
Focus on your baby and yourself, leave the man out of the picture. And don't jump into any relationships with anyone. Make your child your priority. It's had doing it on your own, but you can do it if you just remember what's important.
2006-11-15 02:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to keep your own feelings in check. How would you deal with a man (not father since he isn't taking an active part in raising his daughter) coming into your child's life and then leaving because he couldn't handle it. Remember-you now have a child to think of, her mental stability is more importnet than your need to be a family. A family is just a group of people (related or not) that truely love, care and respect each other. If he can fill all of those needs and more for your child then go for it. If not, he can piss off!
2006-11-15 10:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're wanting/needing that "perfect" family. Your baby's dad made it abundantly clear that he wants nothing to do with you or the baby. There's a lot of stress with a new baby and trying to do it alone is very daunting especially when you believed there would be 2 of you. At this point, I'd recommend not wasting time and energy thinking about him. You should concentrate on you and your baby. Don't worry about him. If he decides he wants to be a part of your family, then and only then should you spend any time and or energy thinking about him.
2006-11-15 11:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still in contact with this guy. Why did he leave? Why would he come back? Ask yourself this first and with answers you get move forward. Perhaps it's the romantic notion of being a family that you want. Is he the right guy for the position? There are plenty of good men out there.
You and your daughter deserve what is best for you.
2006-11-15 10:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling like every other woman who was left while she was pregnant, lonely. You miss what you would like that man to be like. Please don't waste your time on these feelings. You need to realize that the best thing he did for you and your baby was to leave. He is not worth your time and your baby deserves to have a better person show her what a father is supposed to be. I pray for you and your daughter and I hope you won't continue to think about that man. Good luck and GOD bless you.
2006-11-15 10:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh wow... why did he leave u... u need to think about that... u can be a family without being together... i think u might only want him bc he is the father to ur lil girl... but that doesnt mean that u arent gonna hold it against him which will make it worse in the end for her..
i think maybe u should try the whole seperated family thing first.. and if u know that u 100% fell IN LOVE with him again and he is 100% IN LOVE with u, then give being together a shot...
2006-11-15 10:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by red.one9luv 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's called wishing things were different. Everyone does it. But he left you at a very vulnerable time in your life. That is not love! Find a good man (they ARE out there!) and leave this dog behind.
2006-11-15 10:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure u get child support from this fellar.
Anyway, its best u move ahead, this jerk aint worth it.
There is someone out there that will treat u and your child good.
Any man that leaves u like that has no heart whatsoever.
2006-11-15 10:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he left why would you want him back. I think most people in your situation want and need a complete family. But don't sell yourself short and waste time with someone who has not bothered to return.
2006-11-15 10:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try him again and see how you react. if you are ok with being a fmaily, go for it, but if not , then you know that it would never work. you just want the whole family thing. but sometimes its just not right
2006-11-15 10:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Mai Tai 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋