I just got married in September lived with my then boyfriend for 5 years. After we got married I haven't felt like doing much but staying home making dinners watching movies with my husband and spending quality time(we just moved into our house in september) . I feel bad because my best-friend has been left out. I feel bad but I am the type of person that doen't like to spend alot of time with friends. If I didin't have her I would be a loner.She likes to spend alo of time with me. When she asks me to do something with her and I say no I can feel the tension I don't want to feel that way. I spend 1 nt a week with her and she stops at my work atleast twice a week for about a half hr. Thats enough for me but not her
2006-11-15 02:38:27 · 8 answers · asked by BabyDolll128 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She will come to terms with it in time. Right now, she's grieving the "loss" of her best friend. You are doing the right thing...your husband and marriage should come first. Try to explain to her that you are a newly wed and have a new house so you are in the nesting mode. If she doesn't understand, she's not a very good friend. You're spending the time with her that you can afford to give right now. You are right and she is in the wrong and being childish.
2006-11-15 02:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A friend is always a friend. Pretty sure she understands well that you are a newly wed couple. In due time would you give her the chance to feel free o come and visit you? Pls do so. Pls tell your husband how you value your frienship. Communicating with your husband is best way if you want to accomodate your friend in the house once in a while.
2006-11-15 11:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by jane u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to grow up. People get married and have famalies, if the relationship is true and loving she will understand that things change. It doesn't mean you care less for her, its just that you have some major changes and are settling in to them.
Some people are more in need of constant company thatn others. Explain to her that your weekly hang out time is important to you and that you look forward to your time together. She will get it, don't worry!
2006-11-15 10:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to virtually every group of friends on the planet. It's just a part of life. It sucks, but I suggest you try make some time for this relationship. After all, she is your only friend, so how hard could it be to put aside some time for her?
2006-11-15 10:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwww...Just try and explain to her that you and your hubby are still in the 'honeymoon' phase and that its nothing against her. If she is your close friend though try and make some time for her when you can. If she and your hubby get along maybe one night you can do diner together? Hope this helps!
2006-11-15 10:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember u can always find another husband but will u be able to find another best friend? u are newly married so your friend has to understand if she doesn't then she need to get a life of her own.
2006-11-15 10:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Invite her over for threesomes with you and your husband, make her feel involved. Then all three of you can be happy and satisfied.
2006-11-15 10:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by HitMan 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
personal matter dear
2006-11-15 11:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋