Grieving for an unexpected death of husband and father how do we go forward emotionally?
2006-11-15 02:12:12 · 8 answers · asked by Squeege 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry for your loss.
When my father died I was filled with grief and didn't know what to do with it, or how to get through it. I was angry, resentful and hated just about everyone and everything. A close friend of mine volunteered at the local hospital. She told me about their "grief seminars" and suggested I go.
Reluctantly, I agreed (I've never been much of a "joiner"). The first night I went I was absolutely "amazed" at how much better I felt. I was surrounded by people who were all feeling the same thing. Finally someone understood my pain. We all needed to find a way to deal with our grief, and together, we were able to help each other.
The hospital began the support group because they saw how much the families who has suffered a "loss" struggled afterwards with their grief. "Unresolved" grief can lead to so many problems and some people just don't know how to deal with it.
I would encourage you to check with your local hospitals to see if they offer any "support groups" like this. Check your community and anywhere else until you find one. I really feel like this group "saved" my life, they certainly gave me the strength to "move on" and enjoy myself again.
We all move through our grief at our own pace, don't ever let anyone tell you it's "time to move on" unless you are ready. I can't even imagine how difficult this must be for you but help is out there. Please look around until you find a support group, it is a tremendous resource.
I wish your family the best and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, God bless.
2006-11-15 02:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling the grief and letting it out is the first step. Nothing will take the pain away right now but time does help. I don't think you ever really get over it all the way, but we learn to accept it and the grief isn't in the forefront of your mind every day. Spend time with the people who mean the most to you right now and talk about it as much as you need to, don't be afraid to cry and just let it all out. It is the best kind of healing. Don't try to push yourself...these things only get better with time.
2006-11-15 10:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are religous or not, talking it out, when a week or two has passed and things settle down, let all the feelings out so the survivors can draw closer. Remember the good times and good things, but you will at some point have to move on, and that is the hardest part, but just make sure you are there for each other.
2006-11-15 10:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good support group. Go to a church and talk to a pastor or ask about support groups within the church. Look for local support groups in your area. Also, there are some wonderful support groups and informational websites that are very helpful. These sites have members that have lost their loved ones and they would be able to share some things that helped them get through it so you don't feel so alone.
I am so sorry about your loss and I hope this has helped in some small way.
2006-11-15 10:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by scorpio6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After the death of my son, I seek comfort in my family. They were what I really needed. You can also seek local grieving help meetings as well. The hospital can steer you in that direction. In addition you can may want to seek counseling. Tons of hugs from Mel!
2006-11-15 10:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently went thru this with my "Father-in-Law",he was more like a dad to me than my own Father! he was my "Rock"and I miss him right now! and I had him in my life for 26 years,and I found myself turning to the "Bible" for comfort and Guidence.and that Death is not the end ,but the begining! and We will see each other again,and just keeping his "Memory" alive,and Its so good to talk about your loved ones that have passed I found out, sharing stories and thoughts got me thru it! And the do have "Grief" programs in your community,that are free and can help you get thru it! I know it hurts alot,but they are at peace and leave it in Gods hand to get you thru this!I know the pain! Good wishes to you and your family!
2006-11-15 10:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Marcy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST get the book "The Fall of Freddy the Leaf" by Leo Buscaglia. You really must - especially if there are children dealing with this. Please........it helped me.
2006-11-15 10:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jeniphish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best resource friends and family, celbrate their life not grieve there loss
2006-11-15 10:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋