My sister is 16, a sophmore in high school, works at McDonalds and a social maven. She has an overwhelming network of friends, hook-ups, boyfriends and general bad influences. She paid to have the cool phone that opens to a keyboard and texts all the time, she has a computer in her room where she is a total myspace "whore", she lives with her dad and treats him horribly. She never does anything around the house, she talks back, she does things behind his back that she should not be doing, and worst of all she is failing in school.
I need real positive suggestions for what we can do to help her get on track, we only have a little bit of time to work with here - she gets older, dumber and more rebellious each day.
2006-11-15 02:11:50 · 8 answers · asked by temptedlonging 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It is called discipline! She is a teenager who has NO boundaries! She is doing exactly what she is allowed to do - NOTHING! She has to be given boundaries and consequences for her bad choices. It is NEVER too late, but it will take a huge commitment on her dads part.
First, give her responsiblities. Cleaning the kitchen, bathroom, vacuuming etc... If she doesn't do it, she loses her cell phone, or computer priveleges. If she pulls the old "I bought it" crap, she needs to lose it for longer - she is ONLY 16!
It may sound crazy, but this child is screaming out for positive attention! Be sure that she is aware that you love her, and that you want what is best for her. Help her with her school work. Talk to her guidance councelors, get her a tutor, talk to her teachers. Try to get her involved in positive things, sports, volunteer work at a hospital or nursing home. She needs something to do with her time besides the computer and text messages! That crap is poison for the brain!
Discipline and love are the keys though! Love her, but make her understand consequences. Good and bad behaviors have consequences. Discipline when she does wrong and reward when she does well! Be consistent and she may still have a chance! Good Luck!!!
2006-11-15 02:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenages...pain in everyone's behind. But we were all there...been there...seen that done that. I dont know how older are you to your sister, but you should start acting just the way she acts with you for a while. Trust me this will work. Curse like she does, dont give her any respect, DO not Show any concern about her...and trust me with in short time she will not like that attitude of yours towards her...and she will be like what the hell is wrong with you and thats when you will have to tell her that this is how you make me feel too. I know it doenst even make sense what I am saying right now.....but try it for a week. Another Idea...make a myspace account of your own as if you are a teenage boy and you like her...talk to her for a while make her fall for you...and than slowly tell her you dont like her anymore, because the way she is....DO NOT LET her find out its you. Teenages listen better when people their own age tell her that they need to change. You totally need to approach her as a different person and not a sister. because she will never ever listen to a sister. So try this.........atleast once.
2006-11-15 11:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but the only thing you can do or I should say your father, is to stop supporting her behavior. She's now at the age where she needs to earn respect to get it. At age 16 nothing is going to keep her from doing what she's gonna do except maturity and time. However, you and your dad can refuse to be treated that way. Its called "Tough Love". It hurts and may feel like your turning your back on her but its the only thing left to do.
2006-11-15 10:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by April L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow she must want to work at mcdonalds for the rest of her life some of her behavior is normal but most sound out of control id let her know that if she wants to work fast food her whole life she son right track if she has different asperations and actually wants to make money to keep up with the latest gadgets than she must do better in school at this age it is hard to get through best of luck
2006-11-15 10:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that it's great of you to be a loving, caring, and concerned sister who wants to help her sister out. You didnt' tell us hold old you are? But it's really not your responsibility to be raising her - it's her father's (you didn't say if she had a mother or not). Speak to him - show him this question and answers - tell him he needs to step up and be a dad and help his daugther before it's too late and she ruins her life forever. Good luck!
2006-11-15 11:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like both her parents need to work together on trying to teach her right from wrong.All you can do is lead by example.
2006-11-15 10:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you know this is the age of rebellions!well, maybe you could talk nice to her and explain her in a very nice way what you think about her! if she doesn't listen to you tell her that many people think that she is really mean and blabla!! i m sure that she doesn't want the other people to think this way of her...
2006-11-15 12:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call dr phil
2006-11-15 11:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋