my ex and i broke up quite a while ago. although i think he loves me well he says his heart is with me.he sed if u love some one let them go if they come back there awlays ures. i have been a ***** to him since we broke up because i didnt know how to deal with it. threatening him with various things. ehich i regret totally.
he says he needs to find out who he is , he sed his heart is with me but his head isnt and circumstances mean we cant be together at mo becaus at the monet he cant forget the bad stuff that happened at the end? some explanations please. is he needing this time to forget the bad stuff , if so do u think he ever will? or can
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the whole purpose of not finding somone knew is thta i love him and know it can be good
2006-11-15 02:08:09 · 2 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Time really does help a person learn to forgive. They may never forget though. But it's starting over fresh for real that helps get past things. Relearning how to make each other happy, relearning how to trust fully. It may take weeks, months, or years but if he really truely loves you then he will come back. Just make sure if the bad stuff is really that bad, leave it in the past and start over.
I learned that the hard way. I may have lost my true love b/c I never really let us start over fresh and it caused me to give up. 4 years later....I wish it would have turned out differently b/c now someone else has his heart.
2006-11-15 02:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were the reasons that you broke up? Have the circumstances changed? Has he changed? Have you changed? Generally, people break-up because the relationship isn't working on some or many levels. Sometimes after a relationship is over, fear sets in. The fear of being alone forever, of not finding anyone new that you can love. But there are multiple love opportunities for nearly every one. If you enter back into that relationship, likely it is just a matter of time before you find yourself on the doorstep of breaking up again! Then after it ends a 2nd time, you are really going to feel like you wasted a lot of time on this relationship.
Best thing to do, therefore, is move on and let this one go. But try to learn from it and choose more wisely next time. Generally, as we move through life, we make better choices. So it's likely that your next relationship will be an improvement of this previous one.
2006-11-15 02:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋