I have had this ongoing problem with my husband. I have carpet in my kitchen that has to be 15 yrs. old. The floor is concrete, and needs work, so we cant afford to fix it. I do have a brand new piece of indoor/outdoor carpet that we could put down until we can save money. My kitchen smells like the giraffe pen at the zoo. I have cleaned it many times and the smell keeps coming back. The problem? He said that he doesnt have time to install it(its been 5 years) so I told him that I know of someone that could do it for free. He just gets mad and we get into a big argument, so I drop it. Is he being rediculous? or is it me?
2006-11-15 02:01:49 · 13 answers · asked by pebbles 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks for all the answers! They have really helped me.
2006-11-15 11:46:48 · update #1
He is feeling threatened because he is the man of the house and you don't need him to do something, but at the same time, he doesn't want to put a band aid on the issue but he knows you two cannot afford to fix it right. Ok maybe it is more an EGO issue. My answer either live with the smell, or pull up the old stuff and have the temporary stuff installed for free, without his approval. I mean it is not like he has to decide everything for you. You are an adult make the choice, and take a stands.
2006-11-15 02:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Fugita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesn't want to have it fixed.
If he can't give a good reason, then it could be pride or something. Maybe he is just wierd about change.
Either way, if he again has no good reason, then say that since you must use this area and you have a workable solution, that you must go ahead and get it done.
It is likely that something else is bothering him unrelated to the carpet. Tell him that you respect him but that this condition is unbearable to you.
Then do what you need to do. You are not ridiculous. Just talk calmly and get an agreement that you will do it whether he likes it or not, but that you would prefer his approval and that you can get it fixed when you can.
2006-11-15 02:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should just pull up the old carpeting and get it out to the dumpster ASAP. Then just lay the other carpeting over the top of the concrete. (Although carpet in a kitchen is not the best idea in the world). You can sometimes get linoleum sticky squares at the dollar store. If he doesn't have the time to install and it's been 5 years........ just do it yourself!
2006-11-15 02:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he thinks until you have the money to fix the floor --by taking up the old right now putting down new will not fix the floor but only make the new have the same Oder in time .
Myself I would take up the old carpet ,clean the concrete floor have it ready for my husband to fix the concert part of it . Now if He still drags his feet then I would have my friend do it for free.
Hope this helps
2006-11-15 02:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want to do the fixing up on their own. If you haven't noticed they don't like to hire anyone to do a mans job...your husbands only problem is being either to lazy or to busy to do it himself. Keep on him and maybe just maybe it will get done. Give him a deadline. Tell him it needs done before Christmas. Deal with the arguments and he will eventually cave, if he doesn't hire someone to do it...but be prepared for the wrath of hell...but at least it will be done! Good luck
2006-11-15 02:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband grew to become into no longer interior in the slightest degree controlling - even with the indisputable fact that, he grew to become into the main irresponsible individual i've got ever met in my total existence. could no longer have faith him with something. lovable although. My 2d 'marriage' (long term relationship) - specific, very controlling. by way of way my first marriage grew to become into i did no longer comprehend what grew to become into occurring in the previous each little thing, so it took me a jointly as to comprehend. Now that i'm out of that relationship, i seem returned and think of he rather grew to become right into a sociopath or a narcissist or something of that nature. It grew to become into all approximately him and what i ought to do for him - it grew to become into by no ability approximately us as a pair.
2016-10-22 03:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by balderas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being petty. Why not have it done while he's at work and he'll be surprised when he comes home. Tell him that you know how busy he is and didn't have time to do it so you thought you'd surprise him. If he gets mad, he's got a problem and is being childish.
2006-11-15 02:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone will install it for free, I don't understand what his argument is. Maybe he feels guilty for not getting around to it himself. Tell him that one of your Chistmas presents to both of you is getting that carpet replaced. Then do it.
And yes, he is being ridiculous.
2006-11-15 02:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, hire someone, for God's sake! Why would he want the kitchen smelling bad???? Tell him to grow up!!!
2006-11-15 02:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have it installed while he is gone. He's just trying to make you beg. You deserve a nice kitchen.
2006-11-15 02:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋