I never meant to intend that I would kill the baby or even give it up I was just looking for some sort of support for going through this while suffering the loss of my father. I love my children more than anything I just needed help with dealing with my loss. I guess I am too new at this site to know how to word things. My apoligies. I know god will help me through this I just really dont feel strong enough to do it.
2006-11-15 02:00:52 · 9 answers · asked by mommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am so sorry for your loss, it's hard to lose a parent you love. Just remember what your dad told you, that you are a good mom to the ones you already have. You're going through very difficult times, with greiving for your father and the emotional changes of being pregnant. When you feel it's too much, try and find a quiet place and visualize God taking your hand, feel the love, support, and warmth of God's love. Visualize your father taking your other hand and telling you he's still there. Feel his love, support and warmth. It's there, and it's real. Do this as often as you need to, and don't forget lots of hugs from hubby & kids. You can make it. Best of luck, you can do this.
2006-11-15 02:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are very different things but Ill say it anyway. I never thought Id pull through from the moment I learned the baby I was carrying was not going to live. I thought there is no way Im going to be able to go on and that Ill spend the rest of my days laying in bed,staring at the ceiling. But when he was born it wasnt like this at all. I did it and I coped. We are far stronger than we could ever imagine. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Ive never lost a parent and have a hard time even thinking of that day. I hope honestly you have a lot of support and perhaps you can seek berevement therapy or support groups. Ever think of giving your baby your dads name as a middle name? Itll be like keeping your father alive(in a way). Best wishes!
2006-11-15 10:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were just emotional because you lost your father, so no need to apologize.
With God's help you will get through this. Take one day at a time, and remember the baby is a gift from God. You will always love the baby, even when you feel overwhelmed by having him/her!
I had a lot of days with my pregnancies where I just felt like this was all a horrible mistake and that I wished I didn't have to deal with another baby, but in my heart I knew I really loved the baby I was carrying and would find a way (with God's help).
wishing you God's peace and blessings for you and your family.
2006-11-15 10:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You'll find the strength to cope, your dad will be watching over you and helping you come to terms with his passing. I know mine did. When i thought I was never going to believe in anything again, I felt my dad close by. Talk to people, strangers especially. Telling someone all about your dad will really help. it's sort of passing the story of his life and how you felt about him, onto others. You need to share your thoughts. Your dad has gone onto a better life, but he left his legacy behind...you and your children. His memory in this life will always be alive, even to the generations who never met him. When you feel up to it, gather all the information you have about your dad, from birth, schools, jobs, etc, print photos from the net of his church, old school, birth town, anything and everything. Start the story of your dad's life, including photos, certificate copies,etc, to pass on through the generations. It helps to know he will always be remembered. You've got your dad's genes in you, so if he could fight on after the loss of his dad, then you can. Just keep talking, and I wish you, your family, and new baby a very happy future.
2006-11-15 10:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other questions. My mother was a police officer for almost 20 years and due to a situation on her job we lost her very suddenly and unexpected. At the time my daughter was 10 years old. 6 months ago today I gave birth to my second child. My children are 13 years 1 month,15 days, 1 hour and 2 minutes apart to be exact {but whose counting right} When I found out I was pregnant I wanted nothing more then for my mom to be there, and to be able to know her unborn grandchild. I felt guilt for being pregnant because I felt as if I was denying him a grandmother. My mom was with me when I delivered my daughter {her father my ex husband was not} she was my birthing coach. She cried when my daughter was born and was the best grandmother any child could ask for. I believe in my heart my mom knows about my son and is happy for me. And I believe that your father is also aware you are pregnant and is happy for you. Our parents wouldn't want our lives to stop just because theirs did. With time it gets a little easier. Congrats on your pregnancy and good luck.
2006-11-15 10:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your loss but just remember how important your dad was to you and be like that to your kids! Give them the best damn like you can and Im sure your dad would've been very proud!
2006-11-15 11:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this...God will never give you more than you can handle! =) You'll be in my prayers! Be strong!
2006-11-15 10:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Rosalind55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok dont let people on here get to you they really dont now.they can be jerks on here sorry about the loss of your dad:(
2006-11-15 12:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by dizzy76 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hope everything works out.
2006-11-15 10:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋