My bf and I used to talk about everything (we're both 33) and when she had her first baby boy, everything has changed. I'm very happy for her and I don't mind spending time with her and her babies (she had another one that I haven't even seen yet) but I also would like to spend some one on one time with her. She has a husband and plenty of close family members who could watch them for a few hours. I haven't spent a minute alone with her since the kids. She's also very protective and very weird about raising her kids. They're 3 and 6 months and they sleep in the same bed while her husband sleeps in a separate room. The 3 year old is never scolded. She takes tons of classes for mommies and babies and is already doing montessori and plans on spending every minute with them in school even when they're older. Also, no sports because they teach negative behaviors. Anyways, I invited her to a dog show and asked if it could just be us two and she said "yes" and guess who she brings?
2006-11-15 01:48:25 · 4 answers · asked by SHELTIELUVER 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you need to be more understanding of you friends situation. She is a Mom now and that seems to be very important to her. You have to accept her for everything she is and that includes her children. Things change and you must adjust to that change. Good Luck!
2006-11-15 01:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
being a mom does change a lot of things and some things are sort of put on the back burner for a while but maybe she'll wake up and realize soon that she needs a life too , everyone needs adult time once in a while maybe you can plan something for you and her to do together even get the husband involved so he can make sure the babysitter is all set and make a great night of you and her out on the town and maybe she will realize what she's missing. Good luck . I also feel for that husband being kicked out of his own room she better be careful she might not just loose a friend but maybe her husband too and children in the bed with her this long is a little to much.
2006-11-15 10:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Heather B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching your friends change after they become parents is hard. It happened when my sister became a Mom. Give her some time...she's a new Mom and very into her mommy duties right now. You are going to have to learn to share her with her children now because they are the first priority in her life...as it should be. Try to be more understanding and spend time with her when and where you can. Be a good friend and share in her joy.
2006-11-15 10:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your selfcentered
2006-11-15 10:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lace 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋