WE HAVE AKID 3YEARS OLD AND THE KID LOVES HIS DAD SAME CASE WITH THE DAD.I FEAR STAYING WITH HIM BECOZ HE IS UNFAITHFUL ALTHOUGH HE SEEMS NOT WILLING TO DO AWAY WITH ME.WHEREVER I DECIDE TO BE DISINTERESTED WITH HIM HE BECOMES HURT.PLEASE ASSIST ME.
2006-11-15 01:36:58 · 14 answers · asked by nyanya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you have a few choices. You can deal with his infidelity and live with it quietly. The two of you can seek some counseling both separate and together. Or you could leave him and move on with your life. Good luck and God bless*
2006-11-15 01:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one who ask for separation, then you jolly well stay separately. Dont make your 3 years old son as an excuse to stay together with his dad. Your fear is baseless. You said you fear because of his unfaithfulness. There is still chance for you to talk things out. Why should you be fear of him? He is not using physical force or abusing you. If he doesnt love you, the moment you showed that you no longer interested in him, he will immediately dump you but since he is upset from your reactions, then you might jolly well accept him and rectify the problems.
Dont because of your unnecessary fears that your child has to be seperated from his dad.
2006-11-15 19:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting this man decide your future? He's playing with your life..like a yo yo. One minute he wants you the other, he doesn't. Back and forth. Take charge. This is YOUR life and you don't get a second chance at it! Like another one of your answers said, "it's better for a child to come from a broken home than to live in one". Would you have wanted this for your mother? Your sister? or best friend? What would be the advice YOU would give them? Now...take back YOUR life!
2006-11-15 02:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to what you can live with. As for him being hurt when you are disinterested, what do you think he would do?
He might love you still and just made a mistake. The question is do you love him? As for the child he can have you both even if you are not together. Just let them see each other as much as they can. It does really come down to what you want and what you are willing to live with and you are the only one that can do that.
2006-11-15 01:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the HELL would you want to stay with someone who is unfaithfull? There are options like letting him have the kid on weekends or time's that suit you both, don't stay just because you have a child together remember you have to be happy as well!
2006-11-15 01:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is better for a child to come from a broken home than to live in one. You need to do what is right for you and it will be right for your child too. Make sure he has plenty of Dad time thats all. You have to decide if you can live the way you are or not just pick one and stick to it.
2006-11-15 01:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Belinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For loving his kid, he should of stayed home and proved it instead of running around cheating. Too bad if he hurts because you separated from him, he should of thought about all of that before boning another woman. Cheat and there's consequences to pay including the break up of a marriage.
2006-11-15 01:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is not healthy to stay in this relationship. It will chip away at your self-seteem until you can barely look at yourself in the mirror. Get a divorce (with visitation rights for your husband and son). You deserve so much better!
2006-11-15 02:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like you're not a good woman in bed. Try being a little more loving. Do you even like sex ?? Do you give
him your body completely??
But if you can't deal with his unfaithfulness, then dump him.
And if you CAN deal with it. then stay. maybe get a boyfriend or a sex buddy on the side too! After all what's good for him is also good for you.
2006-11-15 01:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put your foot down and let him decide - no cheating for his family or continued cheating without you staying around to watch it and pick up the pieces. Don't' condone the behavior by allowing it to continue.
2006-11-15 01:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋