I've been seeing this bloke since March this year. We still haven't had sex. He drinks quite a bit but doesn't get violent. When we're in bed he can't get an erection and though i try everything, and i mean everything. He still can't get hard. I know drinking can cause a problem with this but even when he's sober he finds it a problem. Is it something i'm doing wrong guys
2006-11-15 01:27:01 · 12 answers · asked by spunkybadger69 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
by the way i'm 37 and he's 43. He won't stop drinking he's been doing it too long.
2006-11-15 01:35:38 · update #1
The drinking. Being sober for a few days won't reverse it. You mentioned that he won't stop, he's been doing it too long. Bam! There it is, he's been drinking too heavy for too long. Not good for erection issues. My advise is move on. It is not you doing anything wrong, it is his own problem. Why you should you suffer? Seriously, move on.
2006-11-15 02:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When You party till your hair smells like smoke, you have no idea where the clothes You're wearing came from, and You don't know how on earth it got to be three days later, that's a party. I lived in an apt when I was younger with my best friend who was a drug dealer at that time. I remember dozens and dozens of wild roaring drunk and stoned parties where I didn't have a clue who 80% of the people at it were, needless to say the furniture didn't thrive in that environment. I don't know whether the last straw for me was the idiot that thought pouring a bottle of vodka into the aquarium was a really good idea cause the "fish need to get lit too", or the idiot I caught feeling my unconscious fiancee up, a scene quite reminiscent of Jesus clearing the Pharisees out of the temple ensued after that one, I know that. Anyway Zacho, You have fun, but for Me, I'm kinda glad that's all over. I'd say Party by Boston. BA: Geeze, it'd be an awful long list. **PJ, Amen to Your amen, brother
2016-03-19 08:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a drinker & that alone will usually do this.
Plus he's past 40 - he's in his ANDROPAUSE change of life - virility & libido get weak & erections falter.
this is truth, honey, HE'S NOW PAST HIS PRIME-TIME OF VIRILITY & LIBIDO. his batteries are rundown.
And viagra is not a magic wand or a panacea. You'll find out.
Men's virility ends about when women stop ovulation. both are programmed into the body by God - with a biological time-clock to start at puberty & end at andropause & menopause.
and that's that. No permanent cure is available. This is aging in a man past andropause. it's not your fault, it's not his fault.
2006-11-15 02:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by blackbird 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm no guy, but maybe he just has a dysfunction. Or maybe he needs Viagra. ...Not trying to be funny...seriously. Or maybe he just isn't really into sex or had a bad sexual experience that scarred him for life. OR maybe he had previously had sex with someone before he visited you. Sometimes there are men who don't get erections after having one round of sex, until later.
2006-11-15 01:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably drinking to forget about his failed missions. This happens because of insecurity. Let him know that you are willing to do whatever it takes for him to achieve an erection as long as as he's open to you. Watch porn with him, make him feel totally comfortable, or massage his body and penis, and try and get close to his anus.
2006-11-15 02:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by coachj444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If?
He's insecure he's traumatizing himself with every failed attempt
try just talking with him about him rather than yourself
if he's got any skeletons created while sexually active let him know that it is ok to feel the way he does
If you are especially beautifull
he may have allot of anxiety to satisfy you in bed
drunk only amplifies his feelings of angst.
try green tea and viagra.
Happy humping
-dt
2006-11-15 01:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He's drinking so much he is drunk and unresponsive.
2. He doesn't dig you and the "little soldier" doesn't want to work.
Dump the loser!
2006-11-15 02:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, is he an alcoholic?
some alcoholics have roblems geting it up sober too..
It has something that has to do with the disease..
if he stayed off the drinks for a month or so, Im sure he might actually get full function back..
2006-11-15 01:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know i don't want to be insensitive toward you but maybe he don't like your look maybe your are ugly no offense maybe you should try a new look that attract him to you
2006-11-15 01:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by the only men 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he 's an alcoholic, dump him.
2006-11-15 02:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋