I go to the doctor today for my 11 week pregnacy check up.?

Question

this is around the same time that I went back in May and found out I had miscarried. So I am really nervouse. My partner could not get off of work and non of my friends seem to have time to go with me I am scared to death to get bad news.
So does any one have any ideas on how to stay relaxed till 2:10 and what should I say to those who were not there for me?

Answer 1

I will pray for you and think of you. Remember that God doesn't put you through more than you can handle. I am not a super religious person but I very much believe in the power of prayer for healing. I promise to think of you all day and hope all is well. I was nervous in the beginning of my pregnancy too...just distract yourself if you have to, watch t.v., comedy, look at pictures, get on the Internet. Think of what a strong person you are already to have suffered the loss and be able to go on and try again! Take care of yourself

Answer 2

I am really sorry to hear about your loss from before. I was pregnant last year, and even though my pregnancy went fine, I hated going to appointments if I didn't have to. To waste the time away, maybe you could just go shopping. Think of it as a baby and mommy shoping day. I used to do that all of the time. Even if I was just window shopping. Plus the Holidays are just around the corner. I wouldn't say too much to the ones who didn't get to go. I would maybe discuss it with your partner of how scared you are. Maybe just bring the idea up to the others that you are scared, and would like a little support. I hope everything goes well for you and you have a beautiful baby!

Answer 3

They did not go through what you did so they may not understand what you are feeling right now or how much it would mean for them or someone to go with you. I wouldnt say anything at all because Im sure if they say they are busy and cannot go they are being sincere. Lotsa stress can cause a miscarrige, So try to sit here and answer some questions maybe about pregnancy i know there is a lot of people that would like to know your symptoms when you were first pregnant. Try a new game download one off of yahoo games, virtual villagers is pretty good.

Answer 4

To relax: lots of deep breathing, a walk, a nap if you can, maybe a movie if there's one showing early enough?

What to say: Most people who haven't been through a miscarriage have no idea how to respond when someone tells them they had one. It usually isn't out of meanness, but ignorance, and not wanting to say the wrong thing.

If you can, I say let it go.

If you don't think you can do that, or if there are people you can't do that with, then tell them how hard it was and how sad and disappointed you were, and that even if they didn't know what to do or say, you would have liked to have them there, just to listen and to know that they cared about you while you were hurting so badly.

I don't think you gain anything by yelling at them.

Good luck today!!! (And for the rest of the pregnancy!)

Answer 5

Good luck! I feel your pain. I miscarried 4 months ago, and I'm scared to death to try again. I guess we just have to rely on the philosophy that "everything happens for a reason". I'm sure that you'll soon be blessed with a beautiful healthy baby, as we were with our 11 month old. So, relax and try not to worry too much.... I know that's easier said than done, but the best thing you can do right now is take good care of yourself. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 6

The only thing I can tell you is you have to think about the baby. Stress could cause it to happen again and that was the only thing that has kept me from letting myself get really stressed.

Sometimes you have to do things alone when no one else can be there. Don't let yourself worry until there is a need to worry (if you found out something bad at your appointment). You just have to have positive thoughts and if you haven't been spotting or anything there shouldn't be much to worry about. I wouldn't say much to these people about because they might want to be there they just can't be. You should talk to them though if you feel they should be more supportive later on in the pregnancy. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 7

You sound like you've already decided you've had a miscarriage, and are looking for people to hold responsible. Looking for things to be bitter about only creates long term stress, ulcers, and high blood pressure. All bad things for pregnancy.

A miscarriage wont sneak up on you, You will have bled and had severe cramping if you miscarried.

In some cases there is no heart beat and an ultra sound is done, followed by a d&c.

But most of the time your doctor, knowing your medical history, gives you tips on avoiding a repeat loss. Miscarriages early on are generally caused by stress, sickness, and extreme weight fluctuations. Very rarely its because of a mothers inability to carry a fetus to term. Your doctor would have tested certain things if the first miscarriage had seemed caused by genetic problems or incurable illness. As it is though, it sounds as though your doctor felt the first loss was due to stress on your body from outside sources, whatever those sources may have been (emotional, physical, sickness, weight).

So long as you remain as calm as possible, go about yoru daily life as contented as you can, you have a higher chance of avoiding stress related miscarriages.

Personally, I know its hard to convince yourself to remain calm, but at some point you're going to have to let go of trying to control the situation and go on with daily life expecting to carry this baby to a perfect healthy end.

Try taking a nap today, a warm shower, take a walk outside, eat something yummy, and watch a nice movie. You can make it to your appointment.

Chances are better than not that evertything is fine.

Answer 8

You are stronger than you think. Your SN says 'MOMOF2' - on that first one - did you ever think you'd be able to deliver? And you were strong through the miscarriage earlier on this year, right? You may think you can't do this, however, when times get tough, you find out you have more in you than you thought you did. I am sorry no one is going to be there for you, however, your strength will bring you through. Think about this baby that is in your stomach now, how strong he or she is, too. I don't know if you believe in God, or talk to Him, or what. Maybe saying a few words to Him might help you along the day. Good luck. And stay strong.

Answer 9

You need to realize that a miscarriage happens usually because there is something wrong with the pregnancy. It doesn't mean it will happen again. Enjoy being pregnant. Think of what will result from it!! If you are religious, pray for the safety of your baby. You just need to tell those people who you feel let you down exactly how you feel. It's not always easy to get off of work. Maybe he will be able to next time. I wish you luck and will pray for you.

Answer 10

I had a miscarriage on new years eve last yr and was 8 weeks pregnant i was very distraught over it. i used to blame myself for it saying that there was something i done wrong but it's the pregnancy something that was not forming properly and i just miscarrie dnow i am pregnant again and i am 12 weeks i am so happy to be having a healthy pregnancy.go get it checked out....