my friend had just had a misscarrage, she was only 8 weeks into her pregnancy,i'm going to see her tomorro, i just wanted some infomation. thanks
2006-11-15 01:22:52 · 10 answers · asked by Dreamah 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hi your poor friend, at this time you really need to be there to support her. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and felt very alone people didn't take me seriously or think that it would bother me. It took me 2 years to actually be at a stage where I'd say I'm 'over it'.
You need to gauge how your friend is feeling she may be devastated and not want to try again for a while or she may want to have another baby straight away. Most other woman I've spoke to say they hated being around pregnant woman or babies around this time its too painful.
But please don't assume her pregnancy 'didn't matter' she may feel the same as she would if she was 28 weeks pregnant for example. The best thing to do is listen and always remember her baby.
2006-11-15 01:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may find that she doesn't want to talk about what has happened. It will be difficult but make sure you tell her that either way you are there for her. I suffered a very early miscarriage and although I hadn't gained any weight it still felt like a part of me was missing. Its weird but when I wanted a baby everywhere I looked people were pregnant and now that I am pregnant I don't see anyone else who is. All you can do for you friend is be there if she needs to talk, and take a massive box of chocs round with you. I'm not a religious person in anyway but I do believe that when miscarriage happens it happens because something was wrong with the baby and it wasn't meant to be. This is how I got through my miscarriage. Hope this helps. xx
2006-11-15 03:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a lot I can say other than she needs to be comforted and helped through this sad time. Miscarriages during the first few weeks of pregnancy are common and she is not alone. I speak from experience here. I went through a similar situation and I know how you both must be feeling. Does your friend not have a partner or close family she can turn to for TLC? I know you're doing your best to comfort her yourself but I think she needs the comfort and surroundings of her family. I also suggest that she sees a counsellor. There are people who specialise in this area and can help. They helped me. Good Luck!
2006-11-15 01:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and i was told that 1in 5 women lose there first baby there is no cause for this it just means that it wasnt the right time for her its very hard to cope with just tell her she will be okay and ur there if she needs u all i wanted to do was cry and i did it takes time to get over but she will never 4get i think about it everyday i was advised to wait 3 months to try again and we did i am now 9 weeks pregnant and it am so nervous its unbelievable. just be a good friends and try not to talk to much about the miscarriage as she most proberly wont want to talk about it .
i hope ive helped.
2006-11-15 01:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by disney_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are there for her and you will do whatever she needs you to do . **Do NOT give her stats about miscarriages to try and comfort her**. Tell her that when she is ready to talk about it you will listen. Even if you have never been thru it, just lending an ear is sometimes the best medicine. And don't forget to give some extra hugs.
2006-11-15 01:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lily18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her attitude guide you; despite the fact that she was not far into her pregnancy, she may still need to grieve. If she needs to talk, let her talk; do a lot of listening, and not much speaking, and whatever she says, let her know that you as her friend are there for her if she needs to talk again.
2006-11-15 01:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug and explain that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss-Tell her she has to grieve-
The only thing that will take her pain away will be to conceive again.
2006-11-15 01:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that, i had 2 miscarriages and the best thing is to take her out for a meal and just make smile, try not to put your foot in it,, just take her mind of it..
2006-11-15 04:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that sometimes thinbgs like that happen for a reason something good will come out of it i promise it recently happened to my friend she was with this awful man she lost the baby about three months later she met someone decent and a year on there happy with a beautiful litle boy x good luck to your friend
2006-11-15 05:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to hear that love.........
I have never suffered a mis- but I'm sure it must be very traumatic as you have already come to terms with being pregnant and then it's snatched from you.
I'm sorry for her. xxxx
2006-11-15 01:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋