tell me if and why you do or dont support abortion. one of my friends, who is 15 and is pregnant, and she is trying to decide whether or not to abort her child. she needs to know all the reasons why and why not. please help!
2006-11-15 01:19:42 · 27 answers · asked by evlynn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your friend should not abort her child. No matter what her situation, her baby is totally innocent and does not deserve to die. Abortion can be very dangerous for your friend as well. Please share this information with her:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
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Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
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Stories of Other Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/abortionhome.cfm
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
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http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
Advice on Telling Parents About a Pregnancy:
http://lifehouse.glorifyjesus.com/questions/pregnancy/tellingparents.html
2006-11-15 03:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe if there is no way the mother would live other than aborting the child than yes. I had an abortion eight years ago but I was pregnant in my fallopian tube and both of us would have died. But in most cases no even the child was conceived by rape. I believe each child is a miracle from God. I was best friends with a girl when I was about sixteen She got pregnant from a fifty year old man raping her. She felt like she would never be able to connect with the baby because of how it was conceived so she went to an abortion clinic and had it done she could see the baby as they sucked it out and into a tube. She is thirty years old now and still wakes up in the middle of the night hearing the baby cry. She was confused & scared and impulsively made a decision she now regrets. Not a day goes by that this poor girl isn't tormented by this decision.I only wish I could go back and advise her like I am you please tell your friend there are other options for her besides abortion.
2006-11-15 02:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by gamble010676 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid I will get a lot of criticism for this, but here goes. I am against it. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first child, he is my angel and saving grace and I could not live with my self if I had to spend my life wondering, "what if." Which is why I couldn't even think of giving him up for adoption, I didn't want to think of someone else raising my child. But if she can, that's an option.
That said, I don't know your friend's situation, but i fyou are old enough to take on the responsibility of having sex you should also be old enough to take on the responsibility of a child, however, my husband, who was my boyfriend at that time is a wonderful man and we never would have had sex had we not known we were going to be married one day anyway. He and I are each other's first and we will be each other's last. We have now been married for 5 years and have just had our second son 9 months ago.
I do not understand having sex so young, when I was 15 the last thing on my mind was having sex and I understood the possibilities. I say, if she has a supportive family, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, but giving in to abortion will kill an innocent child.
Also, you may want to give a few more circumstantial details, what's her family like, where's the guy, or was she raped, these kinds of details tend to influence many opinions. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-15 01:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by lvminole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know how far along she is in her pregnancy. That usually determines what abortive procedure is used. Contrary to some of the answerers, abortion is NEVER safe, simple, or painless. If it is a vacuum-suction abortion, the child will be ripped apart and sucked out (oh yeah, and the head usually has to be crushed because it won't fit through the suction tube). Major physical complications include part or parts being left in the uterus (this can lead to death if not taken care of), uterine pucture, infection, and the creation of scar tissue. Second trimester abortions are often done chemically. In a chemical abortion, some of the amniotic fluid is removed and saline solution is injected into the womb, causing the baby to be chemically burned to death and the mother to deliver the dead child. Once in a while, a child is born alive after this procedure. Usually it is too early for the child to be saved, but I believe there are at least two living, breathing adults alive today who survived their mothers' abortion attempts. The third trimester abortion is usually done by dilation and extraction (partial-birth abortion). I really hope the 15-year old is not that far along.
Some studies have also linked abortion to higher breast cancer rates. This is known by some health professionals as the A-B-C link (Abortion-Breast Cancer).
The psychological effects can last a lifetime. Most of us have observed the pain and sadness a mother goes through when she miscarries. Well, imagine the additional emotional-psychological baggage that comes along with knowing you did it.
While I do not think abortion is about choice, it would probably help her decide if she were to have an ultrasound and could see a picture of her baby. From what I understand, about 80% of women who want to abort decide not to after seeing the child's first picture.
There are so many loving couples willing and ready to adopt infants. There is no such thing as unwanted child. The child will be thankful to his or her mother for letting him/her live.
2006-11-15 01:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by B.W. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO!!
Abortion is wrong! There is no way around that! People will try to justify it with meaningless crap, but it is still wrong! I am not an overly religious person, and I am not basing my answer on religion. Abortion is murder! That child has a heartbeat, therefore it is a human life!
It is very sad that your friend is pregnant at 15 years old. I don't know what her circumstances are, but her life has changed forever. That baby will always be a part of her - no matter what decision she makes. Some people think that abortion is the easy way out of a bad situation, but let me assure you that it isn't. If she goes through with an abortion it will haunt her for the rest of her life. She will always wonder....what if? Was it a boy or girl? Who did it look like? ETC....... As he get older and gets married and decides to start a family, she will again start to think about the child she aborted. It IS NOT the easy way out!
Adoption is a wonderful alternative. There are so many wonderful families out there who desperately want a baby to love and nurture. Your friend could give her baby life and a future with a great family. I cannot think of a more selfless act! You friend will be able to live with the peace of mind, knowing her baby is healthy and happy and being raised well. There are open adoption programs which will allow her to know what is happening with her child, she can get pictures as the baby grows, and she can write letters to the child that will be given to it at the appropriate time in it's life. She should be able to get her prenatal care and the birth paid for by the adoptive family. Please, please try to convince her to at least look into this option! It is not that babies fault that it was conceived, it deserves a chance at life!
Best of luck to you and your friend! Feel free to email me if I can help you in anyway!
Libbykay70@yahoo.com
P.S. I've been there, I understand more than you may think!
2006-11-15 01:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kailey 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Think of it this way. At what point do you consider a fetus a baby? You don't go around saying, I'm having a fetus, do you? It's a baby. From day one. Abortion is an easy way out of a situation because you weren't mature enough to handle reality. there are hundreds of thousands of people out there who cannot have kids who would be able to give this child a loving stable home. Something that a 15 year old can't do. If she aborts it, there is a good chance that something could go wrong and she may never be able to have kids. Abortion is wrong. Urge her to explore other options like adoption. Think of it this way, had her mom gotten pregnant with her at age 15..would she have wanted to be aborted or would she have rather lived with someone who loved her and supported her? Have her put herself in these shoes.
2006-11-15 01:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by skybelle24 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, absolutely not!!! The baby didn't ask to be here and it shouldn't have to die because of a mistake! There are so many women out there who are unable to have a child and to hear that some one is debating to have an abortion or not makes me cringe! Yes, your friend is young and she should have made better decisions so she would have not gotten pregnant to begin with; but we see that she did not. So, how about trying to convince her into giving the baby up for an adoption.
2006-11-18 11:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by anna♥ L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe this is a chance for her to take responsibility for her having sex. I just had a son, and when I was 19. I am 20 now, and there is nothing in this world better then watching part of you grow. I think it is very important for her to think about everything very seriously. The choices that she makes as a young teenager, may not be what she would think when she is older. I really hope she doesn't go through with the abortion. If she needs help there are Planned Parenthood places to go to. Also there are support groups for people who may need help. It can be done having a baby at a young age.
2006-11-15 01:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by mke 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No!
If you didn't want to get preg you should not have sex.
Running from problems is never the answer. She needs to stand up take responsibility for her action and raise the child in a loving environment.
Besides what if her parents decided to have an abortion how would your friend feel about loosing her life.
Having a baby is not the end of the world as a matter of fact it is the reason that we are all here.
2006-11-15 01:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I only support abortion in situations where pregnancy was a result from a rape or if the pregnancy is putting the mother or babie's life at risk. If you're not prepared to have children then don't have sex... Your friend should be aware of all the possible side effects, mentally and physically that an abortion has. I would suggest contacting Planned Parenthood. They would give her all the information she would need with whatever choice she makes.
2006-11-15 01:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by Winnie08_98 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋