What do you do about being pregnant?

Question

My husband and I just found out that we are expecting our 2nd child this is suppose to be a happy time but the doctors say if I go through with the pregnancy I could have severe blot clots due to a very rare blood diease that they found with the our first child but I feel fine and I dont know what to do about it. I dont believe about terminating pregnancy but I dont want to leave my 1 year old motherless What should I do?

Answer 1

I know this is a tough question for you to ask, and the answer I have might sound simplistic, but it's the best I can offer: trust God. Every child that He creates is a blessing, and He knows the circumstances surrounding your pregnancy even better than you do. He knows that your children need a mom and your husband needs his sweet wife...and He also knows how much you love your children and want this baby to survive and grow and be healthy. If you terminate this pregnancy, you'll never know whether or not you could have BOTH survived this. And you'll never get the chance to know your baby. You made it thru the first pregnancy just fine, and there's a great chance that you will make it just find thru the second as well. Your doctor didn't say you would absolutely have those blood clots and that it would be fatal...he said you "could." Doctors are very knowledgeable but God is all-knowing. I will be praying for you that the pregnancy will go fine. I hope that you decide to thru with it. I know it will be scary but it can be happy too. I will pray that God gives you hope and comfort for this time, and that you will deliver a healthy baby and be healthy yourself as well. He is taking care of you; trust in Him. God bless.

Answer 2

Wow, this is a difficult question, and Im so sorry to hear you are going through this. I dont believe in terminating pregnancies either, but it sounds like you are going to have to go through alot of counseling, and decision making. I wouldnt want to leave my baby motherless either, but I would probably keep going with the pregnancy and just pray. Did you get this while you were pregnant with the first or did you already have it and they just discovered it then? If everything went fine with the first, then I would go through with the pregnancy. Of course that is your life and your decision, but just my opinion of what I would do. I hope everything goes well for you.

Answer 3

Can the doctors not monitor you while you're pregnant?
If not, then I would terminate. First of all, during the pregnancy you'd be so stressed out, which would make it not enjoyable and not good for the baby either. Second, if something would happen, what about your 1 year old. I can imagine how hard it must be for you to be in that position and I wish you all the best. In your heart you will come up with right thing to do. Follow your instinct..

Answer 4

It depends on how far along you may be. I know its a very tough decision I'm sure. It's very hard trying to grow up as a child without a mother. There is just something about a mother that no one else can replace. You probably need to talk to your husband about it and you both need to decide whats best. I'm almost positive that he couldn't make it without you either. Sometimes you have to go through things you strongly do not believe in to make yourself stronger. Pain is your weakness leaving the body and I know completely what you mean when you talk about abortions. I strongly do not believe in it, but there has to be a point where you draw the line. Your husband could not be left without you to raise two babies. Think about what you are leaving behind if you were to take this risk! Family is important and they need you. Just follow your heart. Talk to God he will listen and let you know in your heart what the right thing to do is.

Answer 5

What a hard situation to be in!

With having this knowledge of the disorder, is there a treatment or something that can be watched closely? With medical knowledge being what it is today, people are having/carring children that would have never in the past. I would heed whatever medical advise you doctor is offering. I know that my cousin was on blood thinners her whole pregnancy because of a clot issue that she had, so I personally know that can be done.

Not to mention, I would of course listen to your heart and soul. Pray to whom ever you pray to!

God Bless... and Best of Luck with your decision!

Answer 6

This is a something you and your husband have to decide. I had a childhood friend that died from a blood clot after she came home from the hospital after having a baby. She had children already and it was suggested that she not have the baby. My friend was a deeply religious person . I do not know what the right choice for you is. Best of luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 7

First of all, pray. Then seek a second opinion. Look for a doctor that specializes in or has experience with your particular disease. Weigh the risks vs. the benefits and make the best decision for your family, considering your 1 year old first. Good luck and GodBless.

Answer 8

What are your doctor's recommendations? You might want to talk with your pastor or priest. That's a very difficult situation to be in and my heart goes out to you. You have to consider your baby and your own health. If you choose to terminate the pregnancy, consider a tuba-ligation so that you don't find yourself in this situation again in the future. Ask your Higher Power for guidance.

Answer 9

Consult more with the doctor. Research the blood disease, find a specialist that knows more about it, and find out what the odds are that you will be affected, if possible. Don't make a decision like this without all the information you can get.

Answer 10

I WOULD CONSULT ANOTHER OBSTETRICS/GYNECOLOGIST AND HAVE YOU SEEN A HEMATOLOGIST/ONCOLOGIST TO SEE WHAT THEY SAY. I WOULD DO THAT BEFORE I WOULD MAKE ANY LIFE DECISIONS.I WOULD ASK A LOT OF QUESTIONS AND HAVE THEM RUN TEST THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE NOT RAN.I WOULD DO SOME RESEARCH MY SELF.I WOULD FIND OTHERS THAT HAVE THE SAME THING AND TALK TO THEM.I WOULD FIND OUT IS THERE OTHERS WHO HAVE HAD NORMAL PREGNANCIES AND WHAT TREATMENT THEY HAD. I WISH I HAD THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEM. ALL I CAN WISH YOU IS LUCK!JUST HAVE FAITH , I AM A STRONG BELIEVER THAT FAITH CAN DO ANYTHING.BE STRONG! YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS! I KNOW THE BEST WILL TURN OUT AND THE RIGHT THING WILL HAPPEN. GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE!