Do you think that a girl telling a boy her real feeling when she is 14 might not be a reliable and committed one? For example, a girl told a boy that she doesn't like him. It may be caused by parents' advice, peer pressure, immaturity, fear of love, fear of getting hurt, fear of teachers, fear of grades going down, and the list goes on. She might just "postponed" it.
So, my conclusion is: It is better to say "I love you" to a girl by the time you have reached 17+. And do not affected by rejection during teens - they might be lies. Do you agree?
2006-11-15 01:05:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Not lies, but the natural fluctuations of the adolescent state. They're learning, changing and growing constantly, being influenced by the opinion of others--but also trying new ideas, feelings and personae for themselves, looking for their place in life and the world around them.
Also, and this has an enormous effect on young girls, their hormones are all over the place, causing mood swings and unpredictable reactions. I remember this well; one minute so-and-so is your dearest friend, the next they irritate the socks off you! It's not them, it's you.
So yes, wait...they do say girls mature faster than boys but 14 is waaay too young to commit to a serious relationship. They think they're ready (I certainly did at that age) but they're really just trying on adulthood, wanting to be sophisticated, etc. before time.
So don't take rejection to heart until she's older. Give her time.
Boys probably go thru some of this too but then I've never been a boy so I can't tell you.
2006-11-15 01:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's just one of those parts of life that everyone goes through. The majority of people go through it in their mid teens, so I can see nothing wrong with it.
Whilst I agree that people shouldn't be affected by rejection, it doesn't necessarily mean that the rejection is a "lie".
One of the reasons for rejection that you have missed from your list of possibilities is the fact that she genuinely doesn't like the boy.
2006-11-15 09:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't agree. When one is young the feelings felt at that time are as real anything can be. One is just starting to know one self and the rate of feelings changing is normal. To "love" is just as easy as to 'hate', this is ones way of growing up and maturing. Humans are fickle about emotions......this is the right way of learning oneself emotionally, step by step.
2006-11-15 09:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by seth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think there is a fine line on young love and innocence. yes i think 14 is too young to be in lovebut there is no harm on being open to people even she is too immuture for love however innocence is another thing. she is just enjoying being a kid, and let her just be who she is but if they act on then that is a problem.
2006-11-15 09:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man!!!
-You ought to relax and take a step back from this!
Say what you gotta say,and leave the rest in hands of fate!!
2006-11-15 09:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother say "I Love You" when you can instead express it?
Only kids (whether they are in their teens or senior years) who want to play the game of romance said "I Love You".
2006-11-15 09:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I love you" can be said and be a lie at any age and people of all ages can mistake love for something else.
Your conclusion should have been that someone should only say "I love you" when they truly, 100% mean it completely.
2006-11-15 09:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by madamspud 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its not goog because the kids are stil young.
2006-11-15 09:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Muzammal Ahmed 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lot of people use love loosely do not be fooled love is no joke
2006-11-15 09:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - they're too young to understand what committment really is
2006-11-15 09:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋