My wife is driving me crazy.?

Question

She from Central Asia
Has a master degree from her country.
Has a green card for a year still working for cash
I do all the employment networking for her.
She does none
Doesn’t make attempt to learn Microsoft office software.
I am taking responsibly for almost everything.
I have children from my first marriage living with me on my plate.
Bla Bla Bla.
Don’t now what to do.

Answer 1

Well... if she's from Central Asia then I'm guessing she was conditioned to let the man in the relationship take the lead. Have you asked her to learn Microsoft Office software? Are you in a position where you can teach her in a loving manner? These things matter. It sounds as if you are calling her lazy. Do you really think she is lazy? Think back to the way the world was a few centuries ago. The men did all the work and the women stayed home and raised the children and kept the families home. I've found that many families say they have to have two incomes to make it in today's world. That's hogwash! Many people need to learn that values, morals and family should come before material possessions. Yes, it is nice to have the finer things but they are not necessary. Maybe the two of you would be better off if you focused on your work and she raised the children and kept your home. You may find that you'll both be happier. If you don't feel she would like that role then still act like you think it is a good idea. Maybe that would get her motivated to get moving and learn the software. :) I hope you have a wonderful and blessed day.

Answer 2

"I am taking responsibly for almost everything.
I have children from my first marriage living with me on my plate.
Bla Bla Bla."

That about says it all, doesn't it?

So, you signed up for the program "Beautiful foreign women eager to marry!", and now you have a long list of culture clash problems.

I'm sure that are not alone. Find a marriage counselor that has experience with this kind of situation - maybe the "mail order" service that introduced you two will have some suggestions.

Be kind and patient. Your new wife probably has no sense of your value system as it relates to employment and personal initiative. After all, she was probably promised that marrying you would solve all of her problems and get her out of central Asia and to a better life. She may be just as disappointed as you are.

Answer 3

talk to her kindly explain patiently what she is doing wrong or in your case what she is not doing. I am sure she will understand. Maybe because she is from another country she was raised differently and what you may think is wrong its right to her. Tell her how you feel and maybe you guys can work something out. Maybe its a good idea to see a couple therapist my mother is a therapist and she deals with situations similar to this all the time. Seeing a couple therapist or marriage counselor will help you fix the problem without making it worst. If you ignore the problem it can get worst to the point in which your relationship will result to a divorce or a lifetime of unnecessary arguments my advice to you is to seek help see a counselor or couple therapist, it can help this and any other problems that can be affecting your relationship.

Answer 4

She is feeling insecure. Sit down and talk. Don't give in to emotional blackmail. If she wants your help then charge her the going rate. All business people employ other people then pay them.

Answer 5

I've got a mail order bride too.

sweet-o bro!

Answer 6

Have a heart to heart talk with her and express what you feel.

Answer 7

Maybe you should tell her about it nicely. I wouldn't show your frustration unless she doesn't get the point.

Answer 8

dump her

Answer 9

send her to school.