Thanksgiving dinner disaster?

Question

Ok this is my problem PLEASE HELP. I am having thanksgiving dinner at my house for the first time. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. We are both in our young 20's. My family is coming (mother, father, sister) and his family is coming (sister, fiancé, two kids, and other brother) now they smoke and my family doesn't know. I don't know what to do. My mother and father are crazy I think I should not have invited them but I know they were pissed off when I didn't invited them for the 4th of July. PLEASE what do I do?

Answer 1

First of all relax!! It just an elaborate dinner. I had the same problem with smokers since my wife has severe asthma. I simply make a designated smoking area outside and above all don't use ashtrays. I take and empty coffee can and put in the smoking area and chastise anybody who throws butts on the ground, regardless of who they are. And clean up is a snap, just put the plastic lid on it and throw away. I have been doing this for the last couple of years and my friends and family who smoke actually set up the smoking area for me. At one party when we had a heavy rain, I simply brought the deck umbrella to the from and attached the can to the pole.

About your parents, ask them how would they feel if they were not invited and tell them in a calm voice that you have enough anxiety without the extra baggage/attitude. So relax, enjoy the day and the company and remember, if there are problems, attitudes and / or arguments, just smile and say out loud, "I never worry about the little things"!

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 2

Tell them that you have a smoke free house and they can go outside to smoke. Make sure you have a comfortable area and a can of some sort for the butts outside.

I never ever allowed smoking in my home, and I've been having parties and family dinners since I was 20. I have found that they will either comply as this is what happens to them any place they go, very few places allow smoking inside now, or they will choose not to come. If they choose not to come, then so be it. Don't let them bowl you over, they should know better than to expect to smoke in your home if you are not a smoker.

Good luck and enjoy. Oh and a piece of free advice from someone who has done Thanksgiving for over 35 years now, whatever time you think you should get up to get started, get up two hours earlier.

Answer 3

I used to have this problem, and I understand. My family doesn't smoke, my inlaws smoked like chimneys...It really irritated me, made me feel sick for a few days after. I finally just had to ask the smokers to go outside, in consideration for everyone else. At first they didn't like it, but a few people from my family, also said how it made them feel and politely asked them not to smoke inside. There were a few "cracks" about the new rule, but eventually they got the hint!
Being honest is really the only way to deal with it; and it actually is very inconsiderate of smokers to force their 2nd hand smoke on others. No one can make them stop smoking, so don't give them a chance to offend others and be rude to everyone, just to satisfy their selfish and obnoxious habit.
Good luck; I hope they will understand..

Answer 4

Just set up an area maybe light a candle and make it known you have a smoke free home.
Your guests should be polite and understand. If not then they need not come.

The people who do not smoke should not lecture the ones who do Its there right if they do not impose it on others. Honesty is the best policy.

For your sake I hope everyone will be gracious and thankful to have Thanksgiving together.Try to relax and enjoy yourself.

Have a very Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Answer 5

Been there...done that. My in-laws smoked, and it was scary to ask them not to smoke in my house, but now after 20 years of marriage, it's never been a problem, they respect my wishes. It's better to tell them not to smoke in the house now at your first gathering. If you let them smoke now, they will expect to do it all the time. When (or if) you decide to have children, it will be harder to make the relatives smoke outside if you have already let them smoke inside. It's your house and if you don't want smoke in it, politely ask them to step outside. Be sure to put some comfy lawn chairs out and places to dispose of the "butts".

Answer 6

So your parents are against smoking?? Good for them-- they're smarter than your husbands's clan... tell the smokers that your parents are allergic to smoke and that they should step outside for a cigarette. That's it-- smoke outside or go home, or don't smoke at all-- if you can't go a few hours without a cancer stick hanging out of your face, you are a loser.

Answer 7

I'm not sure I understand. It's none of your family's business if other people smoke. They should smoke outside like most people with manners would do.

Answer 8

nicely, not a real disaster. i replaced right into a baby and my pal and that i keen to assist with the dinner. We volunteered to make the cranberry sauce. i replaced into so proud that i purchased sparkling cranberries and positioned them contained in the blender. I had no theory what i replaced into doing. They weren't all get mashed up so I took the rubber spatula and pushed them down contained in the operating blender. even as i ultimately pulled the spatula out, maximum of it replaced into lengthy gone! All chewed up into the cranberries. you may even see the rubber products contained in the sauce. I served it besides and absolutely everyone ate it. To this present day i think undesirable.

Answer 9

its your house so dont feel afraid to speak up and say i have set up a smoking area outside ...this is the nicest way to put it and if poeple dont get it...then feel free to say look dammit...no smoking inside....and take if from a smoker...decent people wont be offended...Happy Thanksgiving

Answer 10

u can have a smoking area, if u & ur husband don't smoke then ask them 2 step outside. i smoke & i will go outside. Just don't b rude about it.