How do you live your life if you both caught by your partner and his?

Question

You're BF been caught by his wife and told your husband about it your husband got mad ang keep you inside the house, no phone calls, and trying to hurt you physically. Your kids find out about this got mad with you and your BF same thing happens with your BF's family. You got away from your husband and report to the police the incident. Now your free, But gossip is hurting you and your BF.

Answer 1

Gossip is just gossip... It derives its power from denial. Tell the truth, speak of the abuse. Tell your kids, which is the truth, that you no longer could live with your ex (or soon to be ex). Don't burden them with the reasons why, then they will take sides even more than they have. Just tell them that you still love them and they will always have you. And tell them that sometimes adults are better parents separately than when they were together.

Sure your ex is going to bad moth your to your kids and others but if you continue to rise above the accusation long enough your kids will learn by example that they can rely on you, and that is the most important thing. Once they gain that perspective, things are likely to return to normal.

With everyone else, own up to it. If you do that, it will soon become yesterday's news. there is not a single person who have thought of stepping out on their "significant other" at some time. The guilt of those thoughts are the basis of their gossip. it makes them feel better than they really are.

Answer 2

Who cares about gossip ?
The people that believe it aren't your friends.

Your b/f must go round and calmly explain the whole situation to his family including the mental and physical abuse and give them a choice to either accept you and your relationship or risk losing him.

You mustn't make the mistake of expecting this to be easy it was an affair when all is said and done and innocent people have been hurt and will not forgive you for that but also the abuse should not have happened.
You can either ride it out and wait for things to settle down or leave and start anew in a different town

Answer 3

Well lady: I can't really help you here because you've done something both morally and legally wrong in my way of thinking. It makes me mad to think that you think this lifestyle is O.K.

I would advise you to find a place to live and think about what you've done, what is going to happen to your future, if you have any family left.
I won't say what I'd do but, I would be talking to an attorney right now so, I guess my advise now would be to see an attorney about a divorce and what could be done to keep you out of jail.

I wouldn't worry about the gossip, that's for sure.

Answer 4

Can you say COMMITTMENT?? Hello, you brought all this on yourself and if you want to save your marriage you better find a good therapist willing to work with you and your husband. You've set a horrible example for your kids and have no doubt humiliated them terribly!! I'd consider a move to a new area to give your family the opportunity to start over. Find a good church and start living more for others than for yourself. Your selfishness has cost your family A LOT. Good luck and God bless. ~Nise~

Answer 5

So let me see..
You are married and you have a boyfriend, who just happens to be married too..
You ot caught in your affair by each others spouses..

Now you want to know why you are living in hell..

Well, my dear..the answer to your question is written in the question itself..

You have done enough, now you can stay and face it..or just up and leave everything behind and try to start your life over from the beginning..

Not much else to say about your situation..
You dont seem sorry that you did it, but sorry that you got caught...

Answer 6

cheating will only get u dishonor and hurt. cheating is never good,and it always comes back to bite u at some point. your husband is hurt, and disolutioned and maybe doesn't know any other way of communicating his hurt. ofcourse what u do, and the choices u make will gain u nothing but dishonor.people are going to talk and your known by your actions unfortunatly. maybe it's time to come clean and apologize to your husband, and be accountable for what u have done.

Answer 7

Your dad forfeited his suitable to any love and obedience from you by utilising bodily and emotionally abusing you. You do would desire to get removed from him. Violence of any variety isn't perfect from everyone. As you would be financially stable you will desire to evaluate getting lodging on your individual for a whilst and proceed going out inclusive of your better half whilst preserving touch inclusive of your loved ones extremely than shifting at cutting-edge in inclusive of your better half i'm afraid your dad does think of he owns you and needs you to proceed to be below his administration in spite of the undeniable fact that he has no rights over you as you're of age and would do no longer something legally to get you to return. If he threatens you in any way you may rfile him to the police. i think of you may nicely be in threat and would propose you to make plans telling no-one and only walk out. The letter and motives can come later while all human beings has had of venture to kick back down.

Answer 8

If you play with fire, you may get burned.
Did you expect everyone to be happy about your affair? Welcome the new couple with open arms?

Sounds like a divorce lawyer is needed. Doesn't sound like your BF is willing to leave the wife and kids though.
Move away from your town.

Answer 9

If the only thing that is left to the fact that you got cot with your pants down is the gossip, you will live.

Answer 10

gossip only happens about something good,,and for all intents and purposes,,this is juicy gossip,,ride it out and face your music,,you and he did wrong,,this is what happens when people get hurt. talk to the children as this will be very bad for them and other kids can be very cruel,,think of them before your boyfriend,,,they ARE for life.