I've been with the father of my son for 4 years and were married being young doesn't mean I cant be a mother and I will keep my legs open to my husband as long as I want to. I just wanted to know why it's hard but I guess you rude people just dont care do ya? but remember one thing I am married and I have been for 2 years.
2006-11-15 00:46:46 · 10 answers · asked by Sheila M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
At first I was thinking wow! TMI! But then I read your other question.
Many people need to be judgemental to feel good about themselves. Their way is the best way and it makes them feel good to know that. They boost their self esteem by putting others down - I know, I did that for many years and am trying to break my daughter's habit of that.
Also, there are many girls your age out there having babies and not caring for them properly or complaining about the hard life they are now having to live. As a more mature adult it is hard to recognize the fact that there are also many teens who are very mature and able to function as any other adult. Teen mothers on welfare - it is a stereotype that even an open-minded person like me has to get past.
regarding your other question - life with a baby is an adjustment. You are no longer just responsible for yourself but also for this little human. I'm assuming that you are trying to adjust to married life as well as life with the baby. This is hard to do at the same time but as long as you are both mature and respectful to each other you can get beyond it. This is tough at any age.
Good luck - I hope you get through those rough moments easily - enjoy the good times, they make the hard times easier.
2006-11-15 01:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're married, doesn't mean you should have kids. I am young and I am married too...and we do have one daughter and we are expecting our second. It is hard....money, friends, family, jobs, college everything! My husband is 5 years older than me and thank God he was done with college and set into his career with a great income. But it's still hard because I wanted to go to school, and I can't find time. He makes a great living, but things are still tight money wise, so I work so we can have nice things and extra money and not have to worry about where the bank account is. I have an okay job, and some people would think it's a great one, but I hate it! Plus, try getting a house loan or a decent car loan! He has GREAT credit, I mean like 30 points from perfect, BUT we're young, with 1.5 kids and that look at us as a risk because we are just starting out. Whatever loan they do offer is always HIGH interest and they tell us "well, you could refinance in a few years, when you're more settled".....so yeah it is hard. But do as you please!
2006-11-15 01:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent is hard at any age. If you are happy with your life then why bother to worry about what other people think. Just keep being the best mom/wife /person you can be.
2006-11-15 01:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are advocating how age doesn't matter you may want to re-word your question. "I will keep my legs open to my husband as long as I want to" is raunchy and immature. And if this is the way you speak around your children then maybe that's why people are giving you a hard time for your age.
2006-11-15 00:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by autumn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation.You need to stop letting all those people bother you.If you are happy and secure in your relationship/family thats all that matters.There are many people out there who are just hurtful, maybe they are jealous?? Good luck and try to turn your focus to making your and your families life happier!!
2006-11-15 03:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by lovinlife_30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is more important than age.
2006-11-15 00:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people made a point of your age because you're the one, in your question, who asked why is it so hard to raise children when you're YOUNG.
2006-11-15 00:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep working out cause your legs will get tired and than it will be easier for you. Good luck with that.
2006-11-15 01:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jip Jip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun it seems to me your trying to prove yourself to others....dont bother i wouldnt! some people out there are rude and brush us all with the same brush but thats what makes the world go around. as long as your happy who cares what you do :-))
2006-11-15 01:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by millienmork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter, it's maturity level that counts.
2006-11-15 00:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋