i have a stable relationship, will not be claiming benefits. tell me what people think???
2006-11-15 00:41:53 · 46 answers · asked by mum-2-be 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am 3months pregnant!have done all stuff like gooing up town on the piss
2006-11-15 00:47:33 · update #1
I am 19 and my baby was born this past June! It is very very hard to raise a baby and absoutely 100% of your time is GONE! I wish I would have thought about it more and maybe got some kind of class that puts you with a newborn baby to see what you think. You get NO sleep while in the hospital and then come home to an over-whelming feeling with a lil bundle! Its challenging and sometimes can be extremely frusterating and no matter how stable your relationship even if you are married...some guys just dont want to do all the things that need to be done. I know seeing as though Ive been with my man for 5 years!!!! We are engaged and just now that my baby is 4 1/2 months old that he is getting better and more involved. I am not saying your man will be like this but when your tired and need to sleep and hes out working ot doing something that he normally does, you are going to be pissed but ya know what?? nothing you can do but look after that baby and give him/her all the love and attention that it needs!! I guess what I am saying is that there is alot of work behind closed doors and maybe you shouldve thought about it more..I wish I would've but Im sure you will be okay..Here are some tips!
1)Let people help you with cleaning or taking the baby when you wanna sleep
2)remember to take 1 step at a time instead of trying to conquer the whole world
3)Enjoy your baby for they grow up wwwway to fast!!
Good luck sweetie and any other questions you can ask this mommy
2006-11-15 01:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I feel as long as you're stable enough yes! You aren't a child nor do you live @ home so I don't really see the issue. I'm also 18 years old and pregnant and our situations are alike (I guess), although unlike yourself though I'd already graduated before becoming pregnant Even so, like yourself I have my own apartment, I have a full-time job working @ a University, and a man who is in my life every single day making sure we're ok.
You can't and DON'T listen to what people say all the time; being a young mother doesn't make you a bad mother at ALL. Your going to hear all sorts of things being young and pregnant. As long as you take care of yours (and I mean TAKE CARE of yourself and child) you'll be fine....GOOD LUCK & CONGRATULATIONS
2006-11-15 05:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i dont im 18 myself and 9weeks pregnant i did get pregnant at 17 but i had a miscarriage and couldnt stop blaming myself for drinking and smoking before i knew and now im doing the best i can to make sure that this baby is safe i am in a very stable relationship and i want this baby and i no i am ready.
ive thought about all the things ill miss doing like drinking and going out but ive never been interested in that anyway nothing would be better for me than having a family.
I dont think it matters what any1 else thinks as long as u think ur ready and u can cope what else matters!
2006-11-15 01:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by disney_lover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I got pregnant with my son-unfortunately,I did not have the stability you have. The father took off as soon as I told him (we were engaged) and I was living with my dad who had a drink problem,and my epilepsy wasn't anywhere near to being controlled. I ended up giving my son up for adoption-which hurt like hell,but I knew it was the right thing to do. I was far too young for all of this-the emotional pain was excruciating. I've since been reunited with my son-and he's turned out so well. So,as far as I'm concerned,it was all meant to be.
You're 3 months along now,so prepare yourself. Being a mum will be the hardest job you will ever have. But you will never know love like the love you have for your child. I suggest you attend mother and baby groups after the baby arrives so that you can interact with other mums. Also try Parentline Plus courses-they are a Godsend!
2006-11-15 00:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
18..well that's when I had my son. You miss out on a few things. But I would not trade it for anything. If you are in a stable relationship everything will be fine. You are already pregnant so don't stress about if you are to young...just start preparing to be the best mom that you can be. Good luck.
2006-11-15 00:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your too young at 18 if u feel you are ready too look after a baby and u have a good partner. you DO NOT need to be married to have a baby its and old fashioned thing being married does not change how good of a parent you will be or how much u and ur partner love each other itsjuat a peice of paper with a name change marriage can end in just the same way as not being married u just end up with the costs of divorce! go for it i bet u'll be a great mam do what u feel is right
2006-11-15 08:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out I was pregnant at 18, and I gave birth at 19, and its the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm 20 now and my little girl is 16 months, and i wouldn't trade her for the world. All I ever wanted to do is be a mother, although I wouldn't take for granted the relationshi pyou are in, as having a new baby is VERY stressful, and it will take a lot of work, but I'm sure you'll do exceptionally well!
Congratulations!!!
2006-11-15 01:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Resolution 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one can tell u yes or no at the end of the day u are going to be the one having the baby if u are happy and u fell u are able then go ahead im sure u will make a great mom.i probably understand were u are coming from seems i was only 16 win i had my daughter she was a mistake i wil admit dat but i love her more den anything in the world and i would'nt change her for the world i donk think u should listen to any of the negitive comments u get it was ur choice best of luck to u ur patner and ur baby
2006-11-15 01:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well girl I am 18 years old I had my son when I was 18 years old and exacly 1 month!! and I go to school (im a senior) I get all A's and B's have my own apartment , take care of my 6 month old son and have a job :)
yes as long as you are ready and have the drive u will be fine
2006-11-15 00:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by mattysmommy18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though i am also 18 and pregnant i do think it's too young to have that kind of responsibility. i didn't get pregnant on purpose however. i would have rather waited till i was older but there's no turning back at this point, therefore all i can do is move on and accept the many responsibilities of raising a child at the age of 18.
2006-11-15 00:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋