im 19 and I have a 10 month old son and I just dont know what to do. I work and I try what can I do?
2006-11-15 00:38:14 · 19 answers · asked by Sheila M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Having a baby is hard, whether your 15, 25, or 40.
2006-11-15 00:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well life is hard for everyone.. that is why having a baby when very young was not meant to be.. you are supose to go to college.. get a career. make the money so that you are able to take care of children and have been married for a while.. you did most of it backwards as you didn't say you were married here.
You are just feeling very bogged down right now.. your son is about at the age he can get around good on his own now.. he should be talking a little bit so it will make things easier... If you have a good baby sitter . or have parents close by maybe they can give you a break over the weekend. to let you get some rest and get some of the stuff done that you need to get done..
And all you can do is do your best.. if you love your son with all your heart he will be happy and healthy..
so take things one day at a time.. You can make it .. you have done so up to this point..
get some help for a couple of days and you will have the energy to continue on . Just relax you are doing fine.. make sure that you have some alone time in the day like when he is taking a nap or something.. really helps..
good luck to you..
2006-11-15 00:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my son when I ws nineteen and someone once asked me, "how did you know that you were ready?". But heres the thing~ when are you ever going to be ready to give up your whole life and put someone else before you? Its hard no matter what age you are. But it gets better. It changes and pretty soon you will have a little time for yourself again Your son will get older and become more independent. He will start doing a lot of things for himself and he will begin to interact more with you and that is so much fun. Sometimes when my son was a baby I felt the same way as you. But there are so many pros to having a baby young. You do the right thing for your son now and when he grows up you will still be young and then you can take all the time for yourself that you want, while all your peers are raising their kids! Plus if you are able to finish school (I did this at night while my husband was at home with my son) then you will have more $ when you're older to do things you really want to do. Its hard but hang in there and be the best mom you can~ your son deserves it! You're young and still have lots of energy~ think about how hard it must be for older mothers who also have to work but dont have as much energy when they get home to their babies. Good luck!
2006-11-15 03:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by amandavictoria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid it's hard no matter how old you are. It can be easier when you're in a settled relationship, have a good job, etc, but there are no guarantees even then.
Parenting a toddler is very hard work, and you are working as well. It sounds to me as though you are doing the best you possibly can. Nobody can be expected to do more than that.
Are you able to go out ever? Do you have a mum, babysitter or other relative to help by looking after you baby occasionally? LIfe can be hard for young mums, as their friends are often not very understanding of their ability no to be able to go out at the drop of a hat any more.
Maybe you need to find friends in a similar situation and get together every week or so- it can do wonders for morale, and the kids play together, so everyone gets a bit of a break. If you can't find anything to join, how about "adopting" a mum of a similar age in the park, and asking her round for coffee. Chances are she's having the same thoughts and worries as you.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 01:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by duchesse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think life is hard on any mom. I'm 22 and have a 2 and a half month old and there are days when I just feel like crap and like I can't do anything right but then I stop and think to myself that it happens to a lot of moms. I'm not the only one. I'm not going to be like other people on here and say to you that you're too young to have a baby. If you're responsible then you're fit to be a mom. My friend had a baby when she was 19 and I think she's a great mom. Other people need to just shut up about putting you down. They don't know you. At least you care about your baby and you want him to have a good life. In answer to your question about what you can do, I say you're doing it. You need to work, obviously, to support him. Just spend as much time with him as you can. Let him know that you're there for him and that you'll love him no matter what. Let him realize he has a mommy who cares a lot about him.
2006-11-15 01:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard. I understand that young single moms are the most unhappy out of everyone else out tehre because you have so much stress. You pretty much survive. Thats what you do. You cant really do much else can you. You can go to school..try to get a better career for yourself, because it will help you out financially in the long run which is very important. You can find a sitter, and make sure you can get out once a week if possible to do your own thing, you are still a young girl, and you should be able to do things for yourself once a week...id probably offer to babysit your kid if i knew y ou because id think you need a break at 19..but i dont but im sure there are people like me out there who would want to help someone out. You are in a tough situation but that child needs you and is your responsibility and is probably the most important thing in your life so you just make sure he/she is very well taken care of.
2006-11-15 04:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter how old you are. raising a child is hard. plain and simple.having a child at 25 or 30 doesnt give you any more experience with raising a child unless you've already had one. i hope you have family and friends that can help you out. everyone needs a little break once in awhile. i dont know how to answer your question about working, cause we do what we can so i can stay home with my son. we are broke as all hell, but we are getting by. just give it your best, and dont ever give up. if you do those two things, yuo know you are doing everything you can. and that should be enough.
2006-11-15 04:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that being a parent at any age is hard. I was 28 when my son was born at it is hard. I give you a lot of credit for being a parent at this age. Feel free to e-mail me if I can help you in any way. My son is only six and half months old, but sometimes it just helps to know that you are not alone. Good luck to you.
2006-11-15 03:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying - - you'll be fine. Have confidence. It's hard because you're not done growing up yet. This baby was brought into your life for a reason. Lean on friends and family for help and support.
2006-11-15 01:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by mms1575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is hard. Even more when you do not have anyone helping....
Go look into the eyes of your baby, and do the day all over again....Your baby needs you and this is what makes everything worth it!
Do have a great day :0)
2006-11-15 00:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋