For instance...you start have any type of sex, but realize that you do not want to cheat on your wife, so you stop. Is this cheating. If it is cheating, don't you get some points for stopping before you pop? Could you forgive your mate for this type of thing? If you are already cheating, it would be stupid to stop before you are done, right?
2006-11-15 00:38:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I could forgive my wife, if she stopped and didn't go through with it. Things happen so fast that it takes a few seconds to get a hold of your self. I think that there is something to be said for a man that would stop in the middle rather than finish, as this would be harder than never doing it at all.
2006-11-15 00:50:30 · update #1
Oh yes, and just in case my wife reads this: Let me make it clear that this is just a general question, not a reference to anything in our loving marraige!!
2006-11-15 00:55:27 · update #2
I would call it cheating....But I would give "props" for stopping in the middle that so many can not do! If you were mine and this happened I would forgive you(it would take some time), but there would be trust issues for a while! BUT THANK YOU for not following up with it! You should NEVER put that situation in your life again. Good Luck to you and yours! We all make mistakes and they all don't have to be fatal....
2006-11-15 00:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing i would ask is why are you in the position of cheating in any way on your wife?? What needs aren't being met? what kind of relationship do you have with your wife? If you are in any way involved beyond casual talk then yes it is cheating. Do you have feelings for this other person. would the time you are spending with the other woman be better spent working on your marriage?? To me..kissing, fondling, being naked..all of that is against what you promised in your marriage vows. could i forgive my spouse for cheating....not sure! But the fact that you stopped before you popped wouldn't give you bonus points in my book!!! would it be stupid to stop before your done...if your already cheating...your trying to justify what your doing in your own mind!!! think long and hard about what you are willing to lose! If you have children, a home, a life, are you willing to sacrifice all of this for a piece of azz??? it just isn't worth it too me...is it too you???
2006-11-15 00:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by mizzcami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I posted a remark rather than a question, but in the question box, earlier this a.m. try to find it. It should be in the family & relat. category titled something like " the most ridiculous excuse of an apology" or close to that. It would definataley answer that question. but as far as "stupid to stop before you are done" you know the moral answer to that question. It's like saying "if i cheat once, therefore I'm a cheat, I might as well keep cheating for as long as i can get away with it."
2006-11-15 01:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by soo funny girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already had the idea Pal, don't try to make it look innocent. This is like a second degree crime. If your wife went out to the car with another guy and went through everything, all the way up to but not including putting it in, you caught her just as it was starting to be performed but she stopped as you saw her, what would you do?
Ask yourself this question, she was cheating, wasn't she?
2006-11-15 00:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For you to be that close to someone other than your wife, you have already cheated. NO you get no points for anything that you are doing at this time. Your wife well more than likely want to cut your balls off and hand them to you.
2006-11-15 00:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you started, you made a decision to cheat. Having a climax is not what defines cheating, its the act itself, in any way, shape, or form.
As for forgiveness that is between you and God and your spouse.
As for stopping, oh hell yes continue till your done, keep pouring gasoline on the fire.
2006-11-15 00:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's still cheating. You have already betrayed your wife, and I hope you can see that. She's not going to be like, "Oh, well you didn't finish having sex so that doesn't count." How would you feel?
2006-11-15 00:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is not about the act its the intention ---- so you are cheating in all circumstance when you are with someone else --- regardless of the ultimate outcome and then using this as an excuse ---- make a clean break or STOP cheating totally
2006-11-15 00:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its cheating, kissing is cheating. No, wont ever trust my mate again, maybe forgive.
2006-11-15 00:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already 'cheating' but just thinking about it, that means most if not all humans are 'cheaters'.
At least that's what Jesus said. He meant that people should consider on the way they 'treat' 'cheaters', since that most if not all people are 'cheaters'.
2006-11-15 01:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋